Overgrown teenager

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Anyone else's husband act like an overgrown teenager always in their (our) bedroom?

We have a lovely lounge, but every single day he comes home from work and straight upstairs to the bedroom.

He'll lie on the bed on his phone / watching tv but will never sit in the lounge? Come down to eat and then back up until bedtime, then get into bed to sleep.

I did that as a teenager, not as an adult, spending all my time in my room. I like to sit in the lounge though as an adult, watch tv, chill.

He is on his feet all day and says it's 'more comfortable' but the sofa is comfortable??

It's not a massive issue, I mean wherever he's comfortable but does anyone else do this?

I did this as an adult when I lived in a home I wasnt at all comfortable in. It was stressful and I just wanted to get away. Dont do it now my situation isnt like that.

What could he be avoiding?

I dont think he's avoiding anything.

We're all welcome to go and sit with him and sometimes he will moan if we're all in the lounge and says why don't you all come up and sit with me.

It's just where he's comfortable.

I just wonder if anyone else or their H / partners prefer the bedroom to the lounge

he’s not comfortable downstairs. Ask what would make him more happy and then allow him to do some of that within an agreed budget - a chaise lounge, ottomans, bean bag, blankets, better lighting.

Unless I’m playing video games, I by far prefer my bedroom.

No not at all it's just opting out of family life

This is me!

I really am just comfier lying down!

I think some people are bedroom people and some people are living room people. I am a bedroom person, it’s my favourite room in the house, I love my bed so much, I would come down to eat dinner and as soon as it’s socially acceptable I go up to bed 😂

In the winter I bring my quilt and pillows down from my bed and make a cosy corner on the couch but if it was up to me, I’d be watching our tv shows in bed. I just love it there 🫣

Hmm. How old is he, and how long have you been married? Is he very young, I just ask that as he sounds to me like a young man who hasn’t got out of his ‘living at hime’ habits. I do think it sounds odd that he doesn’t seem to be fully inhabiting his own house, and youth would explain this.

Does he have any back twinges with him being on his feet all day. Since getting a bad back the sofa is dead to me with how much it sags and doesn’t support so I tend to lounge on the bed

Agree with pp, I'm a bedroom person. As it's me and dd, we spent most winters upstairs in my bed, with the electric blanket on

That said, he should prioritise family time, and if that happens downstairs, that's where he needs to be

Is he depressed maybe?