Kissing baby

[Soph1998]

I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable, my baby is 3 months old, a family member visited today to meet baby for the first time, she kept kissing him on the head over and over, I couldn’t see any visible cold sores but I know she does get them, I’m worried my baby will get them. I was too quiet and didn’t say anything but now I’m annoyed at myself

I'd say you're being unreasonable as:

• baby isn't a newborn
• you didn't say anything
• family member wasn't unwell

I suffer from cold sores - and I know the instant one is coming on.
I avoid kissing young children, because I do understand the risks. But when I don't have any active symptoms I am more relaxed, because the risk is basically null.

I understand you concern, but if there was nothing visible I wouldn't worry,

And it is hard to say something in the moment. Don't be so hard on yourself, but given the worry after, have the confidence to challenge next time.
No ones feelings are more important than your child's health.

I think you are being ridiculous. You don't mention she had cold sores at the time, so presumably she didn't - therefore there is no risk. And she was kissing him on the head not the lips!
Are you seriously saying anyone with cold sores should never kiss a baby anywhere?

I don’t know why you’re getting the comments you are OP. It’s your baby and totally fine if you don’t want people kissing them. Nobody has ever kissed any of my kids other than me and DP. Not because I asked them not to by the way. I don’t think it’s that common to kiss other people’s kids, a hug is fine.

next time I would just say something in a breezy way like “you might think I’m mad but please don’t kiss the baby, there’s so many bugs going round”. She can think you’re over the top if she wants but it’s your kid.

Hahahaha I need your mind set

Nice bit of misogynistic ageism there.

I think it's quite normal for a close relative to kiss baby on the head, all our relatives kissed our babies. My mum gets the occasional cold sore and would never kiss the children when she had one or could feel one brewing. That's just common sense. Try not to let it worry you.

No you are not being unreasonable. I had this problem with ex's family when my daughter was born. Stick to your guns.