Is this normal

[zebraprintxmasdinner]

Been with DP for 9 yrs
1 DS (5)

Hes always had bad temper. Lost it few times
Hes saving up for new car so hasn’t been in best mood recently

He bought DS bike for Xmas and before he went bed last night I said hide it, he put it in spare room but didn’t cover it
DS come back from my mums this morning and whilst I was getting dressed went in spare room and seen his bike

This was 11am
So far I’ve ruined Xmas, I’m lazy and thoughtless and a shit mum because I didn’t cover it up. I didn’t know he hadn’t done it as I was asleep and hadn’t been in spare room this morning. I took bin out before and got chatting to my neighbour, was outside for about 10 mins max and in turn partner has been sat in his car on drive for an hour.

I don’t even understand what I’ve done, I’m confused and I just feel cut off from everything. I dunno much about relationships as I met him at 16 and we’ve been together ever since
Hes always been tight with money when it comes to me and I have felt often bottom of his list of priorities
I don’t know if anyone else fella is like this

Personally in this instance I would agree with him. Say he can't possibly be expected to live with such a person and he best move out. Even offer to help him back. Then you and dc can live a decent life not treading on eggshells like I imagine you both do if he has a temper... Ime life will be much better for you both. And claim cms.

How long will it take to save up for a new car? Will he be acting like a dick for however long it takes to get the money together? Hopefully he doesn't want something fancy....

How much older than you is he?

You've been with him the whole time you should have been growing up, experimenting, having fun. Relationships at 16 usually don't last much beyond heading off to college/uni.

You aren't married so what's the situation regarding your income, housing etc. Rented? Mortgage? In who's name?

Wow charming he is definitely not a keeper you don't feel like a priority he's bad tempered what good traits does he have? This might be a good opportunity to say your right why don't you leave to save yourself from me. You sound like you would be better off without him tbh.

Please contact Women's Aid. What you have described is emotional abuse, plain and simple. However, you might need to hear this from a professional. Women's Aid will also guide you on what could be done. It's not all about you though. It's very difficult for anyone to see the person they love being abused. I feel for both you and your son

He’s same age as me

Do you want your son growing up with a man like this?

YOU told him to hide it, and he put it in the spare room and expected YOU to cover it?

TBH I can't imagine wanting to live with a man with a temper - do you actually want to? Particularly as he can't seem to communicate with you and calls you names?

(To answer your question - no, my DH would never, and has never, called me names in 20 years. If he called me a shit mum something would be seriously wrong).

I'm struggling to understand why "saving up for a new car" = a bad mood. It seems very much a variation of "you made me do it".

Are you safe OP? I agree with a PP to contact Women's Aid (or the like), even if it is just for support at this time.

Do you work? Are you married?