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Sons first haircut

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Mhunx · 21/12/2024 18:40

I am just looking for some advice as I’m being made to feel like I’m not a responsible parent for letting my child do what he wants with his own hair. My 5 year old son is mixed heritage (white British/black Caribbean). Me and his dad are no longer together but he seems to try and hold this huge power over me whenever it comes to our son. To cut a long story short our son has long curly hair but due to it getting longer the curls had started to drop in certain places. His dad dropped the seed into his head that he needs it all cutting off which resulted in my son coming home crying about the comment. I told him that if he doesn’t want to cut it all we can maybe go and get a slight trim. Our son said he would think about it to which he did and agreed to have a slight trim yesterday. His hair looks so much healthier now the split ends have been cut off and is just above his shoulders so he hasn’t had too much taken off but he’s happy with it and I’ve always thought his hair was beautiful regardless. He gets a lot of compliments from friends/family. His dad however is not happy and is trying to dictate to me that I am in the wrong and putting him down as a father for not letting him take him personally. Our son didn’t want to go with him due to the fact his dad has scared him to death saying he’s going to get it all cut off. He has told our son he looks like a girl and even referred to his hair being like Micky Flanagan the comedian. He has told me that when he comes to have our son over the following week he is going to take him to the barbers and get it cut how he would like it as we’re the parents so should be telling him how he has his hair styled. He has also told me I am “spoiling” my son by letting him have his hair the way he wants it and that I am going to regret this in later life as my son will just start ruling the roost. Am I being unreasonable? I have come from a family that is very much your body is your body within reasoning.

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Flustration · 21/12/2024 18:44

He sounds awful, I'm not surprised you are no longer together. Your poor DS.

No advice, just sympathy I'm afraid.

Minjeeta · 21/12/2024 18:46

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PoissonOfTheChrist · 21/12/2024 18:50

He has told our son he looks like a girl and even referred to his hair being like Micky Flanagan the comedian.

So he's starting to bully your son?

Honestly, why would you ever think you're unreasonable compared to a person that bullies his own child? I honestly don't get it. You must know the man is a fucking numpty.

Your poor child having that as a father.

Mhunx · 21/12/2024 18:54

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He did have a line up but his hair is quite thin so he has had it shaped it’s just that he doesn’t want his hair long at all to which my little boy does.

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