How much time me and my partner spend together

[MaisieMoo02]

Hello,

so we both work full time (one is a very stressful job). We have 3 children and usually get 1 maybe 2 date nights a week - usually go for tea or get a takeaway.

all other nights of the week so 5-6 nights, I will usually watch telly and he plays games with his friends. I would at least like one other night a week however this is causing arguments as he wants to relax and have his own time.

I don’t really have any hobbies or interests which is my issue but I’m just wondering if I am being unreasonable wanting another night to either watch telly together/play games etc? Or what other couples normal is?

I also have 3 children, and a job, and DH and I almost never have "date nights" because we are both so exhausted by the end of the day. So your 1-2 nights a week sounds like a big improvement on my situation!

My feeling is that you shouldn't force another "date night" on your husband if he is unwilling. It's not fun to spend time with someone when you'd rather be doing something else. I know that I would just end up feeling resentful if my husband tried to take over the extremely limited amount of free time I have at the end of my day in order to do something I don't really want to do.

I'd maybe concentrate on quality over quantity when you do spend time together. Or, find something you could do together. Could you play a multiplayer game maybe?

2 date nights a week is a lot to be honest, more than anyone I know of, especially with kids!

I think when I refer to them as date nights, I just mean we sit and get a takeaway and watch tv/play games - we don’t necessarily go out (the odd time might be out for tea).

other than these nights, we don’t ever sit and just watch tv/play games or talk, it’s always separate

Why have you made two threads with the exact same post?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationshipsplease-help-the-amount-of-time-me-and-my-partner-spend-together

Three children, full time.jobs. we manage a date night about every three months.

Rest of the time is work, or with children.

If you are managing an actual date night every single week then you are doing brilliantly

Are your children very small? Because most of the time children are also always around as well.

Honestly, weeks go past where only communication is via post it notes on the front door reminding each other what the kids need for school the next day.

Life with three kids and jobs is full.on and knackering

You expect a lot OP tbh. 2 kids and working I’m more than happy to decompress alone of an evening, I don’t need to have a date night on top of everything else.

We don't have date nights but do watch TV together several nights a week. Our adult son usually joins us layer in the evening so we watch something we all enjoy together. No pressure, just a couple of hours of TV. Perhaps he could game some of the evening and watch a progrM with you. Do you eat together or cook?