Does this threat from my ex sounds threatening?

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"End of the day I’ve moved on. It’s all about our son stop causing shit with both our families cause they’re both gonna get involved. "

This is because I won't change days with him seeing my son because I have plans. He wants to change cause he'll be hungover.

Well it is about your DS and making sure he is kept in a routine etc

Yes, tell him that. It’s all about your son so consistency is important and you’re not changing. If it’s all about your son he can moderate his drinking can’t he.

The message doesn’t seem to relate to the circumstances. Why does he mention both of your families?

Why does he think you don’t accept he’s moved on?

You might want to give a bit more context.

Ok so he's a narcissist who has blackmailed me to be with him in the past or else he sends explicit things to my dad that I've done in the past before him. I stood my ground and told him no so he sent the things to my family. It was a breath of fresh air because I didn't wanna be with him. For some reason he thinks I do so thinks I care that he moved on (I dont) he's controlling and so wants to change the days. If I don't he's threatening my family.

That message doesn't clearly say threat but you know him and how he behaves, we don't.

I can't see a threat. He is simply saying stop causing drama because then everyone else gets involved.

Ignore the attempt to sidetrack and take control with the family stuff. He's trying to wind you up into a reaction.
Just reiterate, I can't swap to xday because I have plans.

It’s ambiguous enough not to be taken as a threat but I’d wager it is a concealed threat.

He is having a tantrum and escalating it till he gets his way.

I’d probably find alternative care for your son and put it down to dad can’t have him as he will be hungover

OP can I ask is he good with your DC? Or do you end up having to push the relationship?

I'm asking because sometimes it's just better to drop the rope with narcissists. You need to grey rock them, not care, be bland for them to stop.

What's best for your DC and you?

And obviously sharing any intimate images etc of you is against the law.