So I had a cleaner every two weeks for about 9 months, until earlier this year. He was a refugee who'd been in the country for a few years and was studying. He was early thirties, I think.
He was a great cleaner and very respectful. I found him other families, too. Then, I had to let him go because my work dried up. A gave him a long notice period but a few weeks after he left he sent me a very weird, rude text basically implying I had done something wrong to him. I can't remember the wording but it was just really odd. I blocked him, told the other family whom I knew.
A few weeks later he turned up and apologised. We stood outside while he explained, in a very open and vulnerable way that I'd done nothing wrong, it was him. He had trouble communicating sometimes. What I took from our chat was that he had a lot of baggage (from his life and events and separation from family in his home country) and his response to me "letting him go" was a trauma informed response.
I accepted the apology and that was that. Until last week. He messaged me and asked if I could help him find work as he was really struggling to find it. I felt bad for him - it's really tough out there - so I asked if he wanted to come and do some ad hoc work for me.
He did this yesterday. He was fine. I don't feel threatened by him, I feel sorry for him.
But then he asked me if I could see if any other families might need him. This is the problem - whilst I know I can handle him, how can i fully recommend him knowing he might 'turn' on someone else. He's also about 6.5" so imposing height.
I want to help him but can i recommend him in good conscience?