A friend has come out of an abusive relationship. There was physical, emotion and financial abuse. Her every movement was monitored and there were cameras in the home to watch her every movement. She is not very technically savvy and after she left him she continued to use her phone and whatsapp.
She got messages from her husband that indicated he knew who she was speaking to and what they were saying. The conversations were in Whatsapp so it is likely that he has installed the desktop version and has been reading the content of her messages from his dektop. It was about three weeks before we found this out. Now she has a new phone and number.
She was talking about him badly in the messages and cannot recall the other content as deleted all messages in panic. But she is panicking that she could have said something that he will use against her in the family court - although not sure what she has said exactly. Its probably something very mild but she is currently on high alert about everything due to her treatment.
AIBU to think that him monitoring her whatsapp is just another example of his coercive control, an invasion of her privacy and no court would accept Whatsapp messages obtained in this manner as evidence.