Stressed Hubbie

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My husband gets very stressed about tiny things. Whenever I speak to him about it he talks about mental blocks in his head that he has to work through before being free to do anything else. I really think he has ASD. However, any suggestions that he should see a doctor do not go down well. He always has these "blocks in his head" as a result we never do anything as a family. Our daughter is 18months now and we have only ever gone on 2 day trips together. I feel like I am solo parenting all the time. But it's now having a physical toll on me and I keep having episodes of really high blood pressure. He can be quite volatile towards me but he is a brilliant father to my daughter and she loves him loads, I would feel awful leaving and separating them. Any advice?

Sounds like he could benefit from some sort of therapy like CBT maybe to help with how he processes things? But of course he needs to admit he needs help. Must be really hard for you and I can understand why you struggle with it. You must feel like you are walking on eggshells sometimes. What your husband perhaps doesn’t realise as well is he is missing out on so much and he may well regret it later if he doesn’t seek help now.

Could possibly be OCD? It really does sound like he would benefit from a proper assessment. If you told him that unless he agrees, you feel your relationship is endangered, how do you think he would react?

When you say he has been volatile with you, what do you mean? Do you feel threatened, scared or in danger from him? If so, please don't try and save the relationship. You cannot stay with a partner who is abusive, no matter what his reasons are.

Thanks for your advice this was really helpful. No, I always feel safe. He's never been abusive... But his father has and there's definitely patterns of that behaviour but he is very good at being aware of this and will always go and walk the dog or something if he's feeling that way. Whenever we've had conversations about it normally this is his reasoning but I really thing there's something else going on. Thanks for your advice it's definitely helped and he's willing to go and either get an assessment done or see a therapist in the new year. 🤞It happens!