To feel scared he was at my door?

[meadowhouse]

Should I be concerned that a now convicted gang member was on my doorstep last year?

Context: His girlfriend and I worked at the same place although never spoken except to say hello. I've never spoken to him but I've seen him and her together as we live in the same building.

About a year ago there was a random knock on the door and it was him. I didn't open or say anything. It never happened again. I don't know if he got the wrong door or if he knew I lived there (I don't know how as never told his girlfriend and they've never seen me leave or enter)

Now I check the news and he's been sent to prison for his involvement in gang related murders. I'm worried why was he knocking on my door? More specifically I'm worried if there was any reason behind it or if he was sent by someone from my past. All sorts are going through my head...

Bloody hell get some therapy. If you go to the police with this they will laugh at you out of the station.

There is no real threat to you at all. Do you still work with his girlfriend and are they still together?

You say "now" you've seen he's in prison.
It may have bought up feelings of unease, he knocked on your door, you felt uncomfortable, no reason in your thought process of why he's knocked on your door.
Has this triggered you, the fact that he's in prison and you've seen what sort of person he is?
I mean this kindly, you are definitely overthinking.
He won't remember knocking on your door.
You won't be a thought in his head (he'll have other things to worry about)
Don't give him any more headspace

To answer some questions:

• The building has hundreds of flats and he doesn't live on the same floor so wouldn't make sense he would knock on my door out of hundreds.

• It won't have been about a misdelivered parcel as all parcels are delivered to the foyer which is nowhere near my flat.

I'm a very private and fearful person which is why this has got me overthinking. I don't talk to many people and keep myself to myself, mainly because I've been trying to keep a low profile. Think fleeing DV etc.

• I had about three people knock on my door last year in total which is why I remember it. I don't have a Ring doorbell but have a door peephole. Didn't answer at time as I don't answer to anyone I don't know.

• A few days after he knocked I saw him and his girlfriend outside and he looked at me and it felt unsettling.

• The murders were nearly a year ago

• Not trying to involve myself in anything.

Thank you. Yes, has worried me as I'm a very anxious person.

I would tell the police and see if they can put your mind at rest.
what a waste of police time, no wonder
they're overstretched if people think this is necessary.
OP you're being ridiculous.

I never mentioned police

This is your hyper anxiety talking.

in the past year he has spoken to thousands of people, knocked on dozens of doors.

You are an absolute stranger to him. You have zero relevance in his life. He has no more reason to do anything to you than anyone in the world.

I bet my life that your very existence has never registered with him. He certainly won't remember your door.

If he'd been trying to approach you for any reason he'd not have knocked on your door once and never again.

If the building has hundreds of flats the most likely explanation would be his girlfriend sent him to collect something from someone else living there (maybe selling an item), and he got the wrong door.

It's your imagination telling you he was looking strangely at you outside a few days later. You were probably within his direct sight, nothing more.

You're adding 2+2 and getting 5 here OP. Don't give it anymore thought.

I'd love to know how my being anxious is a 'burden on society' 🤣

I'd ignore that poster, who clearly has their own issues this Christmas. I can see why you are worried, but they are locked up now, so try to distract yourself.

Thank you, that does seem a logical explanation!

God's not real.