To expect my DM to remember my wedding aniversary?

[LynetteScavo]

I was at DM's with DC's today, and said "who knows what today is?"

"Thurday" said DS

"Yes, it is Thursday, but it's also a special day"

My mother becomes obviously exited, and says "1st of the month", and rushes over to give me a pinch and a punch"

So I told her it was our wedding aniversary, and she asked what I was going to do about it. -- Well not a lot actually, as I don't have a baby sitter, hint hint.

I just expected her to rember, as she did pay out rather a lot of cash for our wedding, even though it was nine years ago.

I never remember anyone else's anniversary apart from my own....

what did you expect her to say?
Or did you want another pressie?

what is this pinch punch idiocy

that is the second time I have read that today on here

I didn't even remember my own wedding anniversary this year. Dh never remembers it. How on earth can you expect other people to remember it?

If you want her to babysit, just ask her.

it's a british thing - "pinch punch first of the month and no returns" and you pinch and punch the person. We're so nice aren't we...

It's our anniversary on Sunday and my Mum has already given me a card along with one from her friend. Which is wierd to me - it's our anniversary and I don't expect anyone but me and DH to remember and celebrate it. So YABU really....

Do you remember hers?

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My dh and I both forgot our wedding anniversary this year AND last year! I think it's expecting a bit much for other people to remember dates without being reminded. You can always say it's your anniversary next month, next week etc.

We've had cards form DH's family, and a few of my (very organised) friends. She did give me some pressents though, that she'd brought back from her holiday for me - a plastic chopping board and a tea towl.

i think my mum used to give my brother and his wife a card early on. i think she stopped bothering when my first marriage collapsed in flames!

tbh yabu - it's a personal anniversary.

You expect your mother to remember YOUR wedding anniversary becuase it cost her a lot of money??

YABU

do you mark her wedding anniversary?

It might be reasonable if it was your 10th aniversary and you were throwing a party or something, but othewise YABU. As others have said do you remember hers? My parents forgot the date of theirs, my older siblings arranged to take them out for a meal on the night of their 25th (I think - might have been 30th) only for my mother to dig out the invitations and announce that in fact they got married on a different day!

I know it's their anni, but I always make abit of fuss over dd and dil on there's,we look after the gc, get them cards, little prezies,have even been known to get the wedding video's out, one year the youngest gd was sobbing her heart out, cos she wer'nt at the party

She's widowed, but yes I do make the effort to see her on her wedding aniversay. Her wedding aniversay was always a bit of a comical event when I was a child, as my father would inist on taking her to a decent resurant, and she would have to dress up. She would always grumble about how she didn't want to go, and there would be polava about finding a baby sitter for me. It was always a big event for the wrong reasons.

My mum always remembers our wedding anniversary, always gives us a card and sometimes a present, but I find it a bit odd. Like others on here I think that only DH and I need to remember and celebrate.

I don't expect anyone (other than DH) to remember our anniversary. As it happens, my mother does remember, but I always find that a bit surprising/odd.

Later today we will recieve a pressent form FIL, apropriate to the year of our aniversary (although I've no idea what it is this year) I hope he's still alive for our diamond wedding.

YABU unless you are married to your mother.

Having said which, my mother and MIL very often send a card on our anniversray, even 30+ yrs on, and I send cards to my ds1 & dil and will do so on newly-wed ds2 & dil on their anniversary. But I don't think it's a given that we do such things.

My mother doesn't remember mine either, but I have revenge, she remarried last new years eve (06) so I let hers go unremarked as well.

YABU.

Get a grip.
I've forgotten my own, 10 years running.
Dh on t'other hand remembers every time.

Well i do expect my mum to remember mine as i only got married last year on my birthday!!

I didn't get the offer of babysitting on the day either Lynette so i know how that feels

I was so surprised at the number of cards we got for our 1st anniversary. DH and I didn't even get each other cards!