I have a mirror-image problem, I think. How do I heal or protect myself from my critical parents? (Much of the criticism revolves around my home which they hint is in a run-down and unclean state). But also, how do I ensure I have a healthy relationship with my DD (age 5)? She often refuses to do what she is asked, particularly around hair-brushing, having nails clipped, letting me treat her eczema etc. I don't want to criticise her, but she can have matted hair and bleeding skin some days.
I wish I didn't need to see my parents so often. They do regular childcare for my 2 children, but I think they see themselves as the 'proper adults' in my childrens' lives and this is just making me feel resentful and insecure. I'm just realising how screwed up I am as an adult, and I'm questioning lots of aspects of my childhood etc. Am I over-thinking all of this?