Aibu to give up all dairy just before christmas?

[Gatecrashermum]

My parents are hosting us this year

My little 4 month old boy has been having some real digestive problems and I've gone from combifeeding to EBF and have massively cut down on the dairy I'm eating (still a few meals in the fridge i've had to eat up). In the last few days there's been a huge improvement in his symptoms.

I'd really like to have zero dairy from tomorrow. I figure xmas day lunch is basically a roast so not much dairy anyway - I might just ask them not to butter the vegetables before serving?

YABU - you can't spring this on your hosts at a week's notice. Suck it up for one meal

YANBU - best to go on a full exclusion diet ASAP. Poor baby has been screaming during feeds.

I'd like to say this is quite the sacrifice as we have an amazing panettone and pandoro at home to eat over the festive period!

I couldn’t continue knowing it was causing my baby discomfort. Hosts being mildly put out isn’t the end of the world.

I am dairy free and offer to bring a contribution for everyone that just happy to be dairy free.

Ps. I forgot to say, I know how painful it can be and I’m a grown up.

They are your parents, they’ll understand!

I've literally just done the same. My 2 week old is showing cmpa symptoms so I've cut all dairy starting yesterday, gutted he couldn't hold out the symptoms until after Christmas but needs must.

Our roast is dairy free since my other child is also a cmpa kid, outside of the mash - nothing had dairy in any way. I'm just missing out on a store bought dessert! Gotta make my own trifle with oat milk not cows milk!

Hi OP. I had a CMPA baby and cutting dairy I saw a difference overnight. I wouldn't hesitate again.

Christmas was a bit annoying last year. Surprisingly, many of the pre-prepared turkeys contain milk, as do quite a few gravys and prawn cocktail sauces not to mention the dessert situation! It's completely manageable but definitely worth checking items that might surprise you.

Thank you all - have informed my parents who were fine with it all.

Am now happily dairy free and hoping little one continues to feel better.

YANBU
baby’s wellbeing and comfort trumps everything else.
Nobody who cares about him will mind in the least.
best to you and yours xx

edited to say, just saw your last post.
Well done. 👍

I hope you're noticing a change in little one.
I've been dairy free for 13mths and soya free for 10. It definitely gets easier.

(If you see some improvements but still has some syptoms after a few weeks, it might be worth trying soya too as lots of babies have allergies to both.)

There is a lot of nonsense out there about dairy and it's so unlikely your kid has any intolerance to it through your breastmilk. CMPA is so rare and the symptoms are constant vomiting and rashes - being a bit gassy might just be normal for your baby. So little actually goes into the milk, so you actually probably are just witnessing your baby's digestive system maturing due to the amount of time it would actually take to cut out dairy. Actually cutting down on cows milk can increase sensitivity to allergies so it's maybe not worth it just for - few months of gas and a less enjoyable Christmas.

Interested in where you got that information as the doctor who works the allergy clinic at our local hospital said dairy passing through breastmilk absolutely can affect a baby.

My toddler definitely still reacts if I eat dairy. He has only recently passed step 1 of the milk ladder

Definitely cut it out to see if it helps your baby. I’d suspected when my youngest was tiny, was told no by GP so ate as normal his first Christmas (4months) and noticed an increase in symptoms. Queried it again after Christmas and told no again. Once weaning he reacted to a cheesy crisp, was practically laughed at over the phone by someone at the doctors surgery and told to wean as normal. I decided to cut dairy from my diet just incase when he was about 7 months old. At 8 months (at which point we’d only managed to get him to eat a handful of solids) we gave him yoghurt and he had the most horrific reaction. GP then gave the diagnosis. We’ve been dairy free for 1.5 years now other than milk ladder attempts and a couple of slip ups (restaurants giving normal custard/ice cream in error)