Us born close to Christmas or on Christmas day have it the worst!

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Lighthearted post really , but I really feel we get a rough deal. My birthday is on the 23rd December. Interested in hearing other stories or even those born on the 25th itself!
Or if you can think of any positives to this I would be very surprised.
Along side the ... I got you this for you birthday and Christmas presents , the cancelling of not making your birthday due to other Christmas events happening or just being too skint as it's Christmas there's more of a chance people forget you over this period. I dread mine every year.
Tell me I'm wrong?

Just joining to read people's experiences as it's interesting.

My DGM was 25 Dec and I know she enjoyed the fact most of the family would make the effort to be there on the day or at least call.

My DH is 30 Dec and he loves it. He said he was never at school on his birthday and as he got older his friends and clubbing it was great as his friends would be in party mode and there was always events on.

I can think of a positive! Birthdays from 21st onwards are rarely at school on their birthdays. That's quite good right?

DS is Dec 6th and no issues so far but he only turned 2 this time so not had many birthdays yet.

Exactly this

It isn't an exact fixed date; they choose a suitable weekend each June. His actual birthday is 14 November.

my daughter is close to christmas. Yes other family members may give her 2 presents in one but they are always a lot more generous than they would otherwise.
re: birthday parties. She always always does it the 2nd week end of december. Of course we do have a cake for her on the day.

so i would say, it is up to your parents / hisband / partner to ensure that you are celebrated though.

it s not too late to re educate them on how to celebrate you

My birthday is the 23rd.
I've never been given a gift and told its for my birthday and Christmas. Anyone that would do this is awful.
Whenever I tell anyone my birthday they all say oh whats that's like and are expecting me to say its terrible, but Ive actually never minded.
As a kid I obviously didn't know any different and my family always made a big effort to keep the two separate. Plus to me it always made birthday more exciting as I was guaranteed to be off school, there were christmas decorations eveywhere and everyone was in a celebratory mood!

My son was due mid December. I was worried he'd be late and close to Christmas. Fortunately he was a week early so he isn't too impacted in early December. We put off all signs of Christmas in our house until after his birthday. Though he just had his birthday and I was weirdly offended on his behalf by the Christmas wrapping paper on a few of his presents. (At 4 he didn't notice or care.)

Yes I did always love this! However sometimes it's nice to be at school and sung happy birthday and made a fuss of by friends and teacher etc

My DH's birthday is 23 Dec and he's had this too, and hates it. It's just so bloody thoughtless, isn't it?

It isn’t - the worst day for a birthday is Jan 2. That is my brother’s birthday - no one is up for doing anything on Jan 2.

If it’s Jan 1, at least it’s a bank holiday, and at least people are up for celebrating the night before, going into your birthday.

Things I didn't like with a Boxing Day birthday:

Birthday parties as a kid were pretty much a write-off, and as an adult going out is a nightmare as there's no public transport where I am on Boxing Day and taxis are double time. I work an office job now which means I'm guaranteed my birthday off but I worked in a supermarket for around 15 years which meant it was not easy to get Boxing Day off, and the lack of transport and not living near my family meant if I couldn't get it off I was spending Christmas and my birthday alone.

I love it now though because I love having a very chilled birthday eating Christmas chocolate and watching Christmas telly and absolutely not socialising with anyone except my family!

Yes we're made to feel like a big inconvenience or an after thought

We deliberately avoided TTC in March and April to avoid this - although I realise that others may not see it as an issue, not have the luxury of waiting and/or find it 'just happens' that way!

Even the birthday card selection sucks, unless people are well organised and buy them good and early. Shops only care about sales, so why prioritise rack space for an event that (presumably) only 1/12 of people celebrate, when there's another event that probably 95% or more people celebrate?!

As an 'outsider' (my birthday could hardly be further away from Christmas), I reckon that Christmas Eve must be one of the worst days of all for a birthday. Everybody rushing around, everything frantic and anticipatory. As far as Christmas goes, it's just a busy prep day before the main event and before people are ready to start celebrating. At least with Christmas Day, the celebrating has begun and it's not just a massive admin day.

My son was born on the 25th December and loved it up until until this year when he said it sucks, and that it just merges into Christmas. He’s turning 10 this year but we do one room in birthday decorations/presents and another room is for Christmas.

Move to Scotland - it's a bank holiday there!

Yup.
Most restaurants are closed too. Hate it.

My birthday is tomorrow, and mum always put the Christmas tree up on my birthday which I loved. I don't mind Happy Birthday in Christmas cards or birthday presents in Christmas paper. My biggest gripe was my 30th birthday when people said they would come to my party then didn't turn up.

My sons is too ,he's 18 this year poor lad.

@Avoidingthetwitch I see your 1st January and I raise you the 2nd January and my older siblings birthday is the 1st. Even less celebration 😂

I agree, I feel sorry for anyone with a birthday either week each side of Christmas. December is so full on that people are in full Christmas mode and birthdays are easy to overlook.

I would 100% use a June/July date to celebrate instead.

Well DS10 was due on 26 March but decided to appear on 17 Dec. He obviously couldn't wait for Xmas.

Obviously I know our case was very extreme and unlikely to happen but you never know!

My son’s is 10 December and it never seems to get lumped in with Christmas at all, so don’t worry! We break up for Xmas on 3 Dec (Aus) so we do his birthday party the last week of term so his friends are around and then do something else fun on his actual birthday so he likes it because it’s like 10 days of birthday, and then Christmas two weeks later.

For presents, I keep a note through the year of what he might like as it can be tricky to think of things for both birthday and Christmas when they’re quite close.

Same here. Despite having multiple miscarriages, I still avoided conceiving certain months; I didn’t want a Winter baby as it makes birthdays tricky. Appreciate others can’t be as choosy or aren’t as bothered by birth month.