Met someone last year and eventually started a relationship, partner seemed to struggle with flirtatious texts at the start and has never really "got it" so i stopped bothering.
they live about an hours drive away from me and own a rescue dog they don't like to leave alone for very long, so they have never visited my house (they don't even know where i live, after a year)
when I do visit, I tend to spend Friday-Monday morning with them, as I need to get back to my city for work but oftentimes during my weekend stays I will find myself entertaining myself on my phone, reading reddit or scrolling youtube because they always seem to have some sort of housework on the go or other errands.
on top of this, i'm beginning to think they are on the A-sexual spectrum somehow, because (i've not been counting) we've probably had sex only a few more times than there are months in the year, in the just over a year we have been seeing each other, - they I am 38, they are just recently 40.
More recently, we had tried to get "intimate" while the dog was out of the way - I spent plenty of time doing something for them but we were interrupted by said doggo and intimate time ended with nothing for me.
This seems to be a recurring pattern of not reciprocating and it's starting to make me feel like i am not found attractive or that they are really interested in me, we don't even regularly cuddle up to watch a movie when i'm there.
AIBU to keep visiting if i don't feel like i'm getting enough attention?