Adult regression/skill loss

[Neuroticmillenial]

Just wondering if this has happened to anyone else.

I used to drip ds to nursery, drive to college, drive to work on weekends, plus handle medication in a high stress job. Then Covid happened and a bunch of other stuff. I had a mental breakdown and now I’m too terrified to drive - have been for the past 3 years. I’m codependent on my friends and my mother. I can’t imagine working. Supermarkets stress me out. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD and maybe I have autism but I had no social or developmental delays when I was younger so I’m not going to self-diagnose.

Worth mentioning I have a child with Sen and a toddler. Plus my husband is probably on the spectrum so maybe this is a normal reaction to everything, but I honestly feel like I’ve lost skills and I’ve had to relearn stuff.

I’m just feeling very sad about it all. I want to do better and feel like a competent adult.

how do you manage to parent given what you describe?

. I’m codependent on my friends and my mother. I can’t imagine working.

and you have a toddler? how old? because covid was a few years ago op and so you must have had a baby despite knowing the impact it had had on you

does your partner work?

He’s 19 months. I do my shopping mainly online. Thought I’d be ready to drive again but I’m still terrified. I’m parenting but hanging on by a thread.

@MyGladBiscuit yes he does.

Yes - I was going to ask if you need to drive, as it’s possible to manage without a car depending on where you live, but it sounds as though you are struggling to do anything and the driving is the least of the issues.

Who does the day to day stuff - feeding the children, getting them to school/ nursery and back, cleaning and laundry, looking after the children at weekends?

Could you start from scratch with the driving? Find an instructor and get them to take you through it all as if you were a learner.