To think this is selfish & lazy ?

[Farmwifefarmlife]

DH has been driving an hour out of his way every morning ( 30 mins each way ) to get lunch for himself.

he is self employed so am I , we have 3 DC one at school one at a childminders ( different location ) and a 8 week old newborn. I run a doggy daycare from home so mornings are pretty hectic with people dropping dogs off + we have a kennel block of our own dogs to do before school.

DH has been leaving earlier than usual 7-730 and it’s really hectic at that time in a morning and it’s because he’s been driving into town to get himself some lunch it’s also the absolute opposite direction. So not only is he wasting time that he could be earning money wasting fuel & buying lunch ( from Greggs) but that hour could be spent helping me!

I'm pretty cross but he thinks I’m being unreasonable as I don’t make him lunch anymore!! I do occasionally when I make DD lunch for school but the majority of the time she has school dinners!

Wow. He's got all of the answers and none of the solutions.

So he doesn't have to look after his own baby because he won't get paid? Doesn't have to make a fucking sandwich because he won't get paid? Doesn't have to take part in any family responsibilities because he won't get paid? Show consideration for his wife and children because he won't get paid? Right. Got it.

So he doesn't have to contribute to family life? What a weird view on the world. Most people work and get paid. Should everyone refuse to get their kids ready in the morning as they aren't paid or one has to go to work first?

There is absolutely something sinister going on. Get a copy of his phone bills. Trust me.

What a lazy selfish man.
Three children with this waster.
Of course he is avoiding sharing the load.
What a complete loser.
Poor children.
God help you.

To be honest there's a lot of kids and a lot of dogs involved there, I could not cope. Yes he is selfish but neither cope I cope with packs of barking dogs every morning. Surely the most obvious answer is he needs time away from the barking?

I once worked with a bloke who went to work an hour early than needed, drank coffee and smoked. He openly admitted he did it to get out of the way in the mornings, he had 3 kids. I gave him a bollocking on behalf of his wife.

Did he change his ways?

Really nice that he is taking this time for himself. But Can you do anything to match it? Childcare later in the day so you can have a breather? Can he help you to make similar time for yourself? Cause if you can’t and all the responsibilities fall to you whilst he is having a nice chilled hour in the car thats not fair. But if you can make the finances work to all have a bit of space to do things then that could be really good for everyone.

The lazy arse is doing it on purpose to avoid the morning routine. Perhaps she should match it by equally doing nothing.

I do absolutely agree with this too!

Just read this to my Husband and he asked if ‘Getting a Greggs’ is a euphemism .

She wanted a dog sitting business - he didn't! So yeah if she's expecting him to help her with her doggy day care business then she around pay!
Tbh he probably wants an hour away from all the doggy noise!

He wants an hour away from the busy part of the day when his partner needs help the most. It’s selfish. Regardless of the doggy day care he still has responsibility for his own dogs and his own kids.

I am assuming that the doggy day care business brings in extra family income that easily fits around childcare. Maybe OP should just not bother working then if her partner is going to be so selfish and unsupportive.

I couldn’t understand your second sentence.

The business definitely helps us both and he is encouraging me to expand at the moment as like you said it fits in around childcare.

Personally I’d tell him to f* off.

He really needs to pull his weight in the mornings.

He can make up his lunch the night before and then it's sorted for the following day.