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Worried I’ve made a huge and expensive mistake with ds

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Urpppp · 17/12/2024 23:24

Dp works away Sunday night to Friday mornings most weeks. This has been the way since ds was born. I’ve got a very strict routine and touch wood ds sleeps well. He’s now 2 and 2 months.

We’ve planned to go away for 5 nights In January. We’ve got a similar cot to take (large one) and I’ve planned to take his usual bears etc. But… I’m now very much panicking that this trip is going to disrupt how he sleeps and I’m going to have to continue working alone all week with sleepless nights. The place we are staying doesn’t have blackout blinds so his room can’t be recreated.

Is this change likely to make him resist sleep when we return? He’s never slept in another place before. Please be kind, I’m basically solo parenting most of the time and I would struggle if his sleep changed.

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ApocalypseNowt · 17/12/2024 23:28

Where are you going? In winter it'll still be dark enough at night and in the early morning I think.

If he's got a good sleep pattern anyway, that's actually a good thing. You'll be fine - enjoy your time away x

TooManyAnimals94 · 17/12/2024 23:29

I don't understand the question

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Urpppp · 17/12/2024 23:30

@ApocalypseNowt that’s a good point, not like it’s summertime.

im just worried he will alter his sleep pattern when home again. Finding it hard to relax.

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50shadesofnay · 17/12/2024 23:31

Where are you going? Will it still be dark outside? You can get a gro anywhere travel black out blind - it has suckers that stick on the window to keep it up and folds down to the size of a large book.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Gro-Curtains-Ollie-The-Owl/dp/B07D5MKNDL

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GreyBlackBay · 17/12/2024 23:31

I took a roll of black bin liners and duck tape everywhere.

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 17/12/2024 23:38

What is difficult to understand @TooManyAnimals94? The OP has her DS in a really good sleep routine and is worried that going away on holiday will disrupt it and he will struggle to settle back into his routine again when they are back home. Since her DH works away she is particularly worried about lots of disturbed nights in the future.

OP, sounds as though you are fortunate to have a good sleeper. Unless you are going somewhere long haul where it will be light at 7pm I would not worry about the lack of black out blinds.

DS might be a bit unsettled for a few nights. I can’t see the holiday will disrupt him longger term. Hope you enjoy the holiday.

Viviennemary · 17/12/2024 23:41

I don't understand at all. You either go away or stay at home. Stop worrying.

Hayley1256 · 17/12/2024 23:44

I'm sure it will be fine, is there a time difference? I wouldn't worry about this whilst your on holiday and make sure he has a comfy pram for when your out (if night time)

AllTangledUpInTinselAndTiaras · 17/12/2024 23:45

I understand your worries. But it's helpful to remember that it's likely his sleep patterns will change anyway so it's best not to strive for complete rigidity.

Life with children ebbs and flows a lot throughout each stage. Try to go with the flow - you can always adapt things to his changing needs.

Maray1967 · 17/12/2024 23:46

Years ago we took DS1 on holiday (at about 15 months ) and had a tough week - he was in his travel cot with his usual bedding, but hated being in the room and ended up in bed with us every night. As soon as we got home he was absolutely fine.

Ariela · 17/12/2024 23:46

Chances are there will be so much to do on holiday all the new experiences and activity will tire him out more than usual anyway. So long as you stick to the same routine at bedtime I'm sure he'll be fine - not like the sun is up before 5am!

natwalesrug · 17/12/2024 23:48

My children were all brilliant sleepers. Asleep by 6.30 pm and still in bed/ cot until 7am . They all coped well with holidays. Try not to overthink it.

Kittiwakeup · 18/12/2024 00:02

If you can be chilled about it, likely that DS will take it in his stride. We travelled lots with ours from a young age and they were always fine and no trip affected their sleeping when we got back, beyond normal jet lag. It will be fine. Enjoy your vacation.

Happyhappyday · 18/12/2024 00:04

Totally understand the sleep anxiety but he’ll probably be fine. If you’re worried about black out, we used to take a roll of bin liners and masking tape whenever we weren’t sure what the place we were staying was like.

Mandylovescandy · 18/12/2024 00:06

You can buy travel black out blinds and we always rigged up towels etc. I also had a DP who worked away a lot and found having a good sleep routine essential to cope on my own. We had lots of trips and holidays some of which DC slept well on and others which were less successful but never had any longer term impact on their sleep at home. You will be fine

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