He's pissed off because I asked if he'd taken drugs

[BerryMary107]

I've been dating somebody for 10 weeks or so and it has been going well.

During that time, he has mentioned drug use in his wider circle. An ex girlfriend and friends. The second time drugs came up (tonight, telling me about a friend of his) I innocently and genuinely asked him whether he used to do those drugs himself.

It didn't feel like an inappropriate question to me given that it's a theme among people he knows but he's majorly pissed off, offended that I even asked and threatened to block me for it. I'm now being blanked.

Was I wrong to ask? Would you have? Is his reaction proportionate?

Well you did dare, because you wanted to know, like any sane person would.
His reaction is a huge red flag, block, delete, move on.

Druggie or not, he sounds like an unreasonable arsehole. Ditch him. He won't improve.

Thank you all for your perspectives. I agree his reaction is a definite red flag.

I told him I felt he was over reacting by threatening to block me for asking him a question that was in context.

He then said "let's just forget about this conversation, tomorrow is a new day"

Historical drug use wouldn't have been a deal breaker for me providing it was in the distant past and he didn't do those things anymore, but his reaction does feel like one.

We had just gone 'official' and deleted our dating apps so it's a bit of a kicker to think I'm that disposable that he'd block me for something as small as that.

He's the disposable one, he tried to control you by attacking you for a simple question, it hasn't worked and you would be mad not to kick him to the curb now he's waved such a huge red flag 🚩 in your face.

You're so right.

Rather now than later on down the line eh 😕

I would walk away.

His reaction is possibly a way to put you off asking future questions re his drug use.

So you won't ask him in case he reacts like that again.

And it definitely sounds like there's a story or two there, whether current or recent-ish drug use.

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1 this was not an inappropriate question. It was a perfectly reasonable question in the context of the conversation you were having AND in the context of you being in a reatively new relationship that has been moving to a new place.

2 A man who threatens to block me becuase I did something he didn't like is a man I don't want to be in a relationship with in the first place. Either you have crossed a line and he walks away OR he deals with it like an adult. Threatening you and acting like a spoiled child who has been caught with his hand in the cookie jar is not helpful.

@BerryMary107
He was testing the water to see what he might be able to get away with.

I agreed with the others. He's protesting too much and trying to manipulate you.

Dump and move on.
Sorry OP. You deserve better.

His reaction is more than enough of an answer to your question. Get rid.