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To think Home Education should be made illegal

776 replies

Viviennemary · 17/12/2024 12:43

I would like to see a ban on HE except perhaps in a very very few cases and with good reason and under strict supervision.

OP posts:
Fluffyiguana · 17/12/2024 13:35

I agree. I have been saying this for years.

It should be much harder to pull your children out of school and there should be testing to ensure the parent is capable of doing the teaching.

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 13:36

Moier · 17/12/2024 13:26

Yes ..had to send in reports.. fill in forms.. one inspector even attended the HE group at the Yorkshire mining museum last summer.
Only one is now HE.. the ten year old.. others at college/ Uni.
The 16 year old is more intelligent than his tutor for his course and now is a NTA helping out the tutor part time. He decided he wanted to do his Maths GCSE early passes that then did his A level Maths too... passed that and still just turned 16 last month.
Obviously we pay privately to do the exams.

Reports are really easy to do. Your HE may be fantastic, but reports do not prove it.
It is not that hard to do one or even a few GCSEs early if you are focussing on those. School educated children do lots of GCSEs at once, and that is very different from focussing on one or two GCSEs.

Annabella92 · 17/12/2024 13:36

Goodness. The problem with people as narrow minded as the OP is that they genuinely have no idea just how narrow their field of vision is.

Punocchio · 17/12/2024 13:36

This is again a case of pointing the finger at one group and expecting it to solve a problem that's significantly bigger. The majority of murdered and abused children in this country, statistically, attend school.

Until very recently, my eldest son was home educated. He was registered with a GP, registered with a dentist, attending Beavers and Scouts, attending local clubs, out and about in our local community every day. Frankly he was seen by more people out of school than he is now he's in school.

Oh, and for those who think his education must have suffered, he's well ahead academically of his schooled peers.

NoYouDidnt · 17/12/2024 13:37

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 17/12/2024 12:49

I’m with you op for the majority of cases. Children miss out on so much by not attending school. They miss out on socialisation with other kids, the friendship bonds, experiences, school trips, social lives… not to mention there’s a hell of a lot of parents out there who are simply not qualified to be teaching the kids at home.

There’s some cases where I believe it’s necessary, but not the majority. and those where it is necessary should really be monitored to ensure the kids are actually learning and that it remains in their best interest

A child can be attending school and still not have those things though. For some kids, school is the abusive place.

Theres a very worrying amount children locally to me who have ended their own lives due to being bullied at school. I wish I could say it's a rare occurrence but I don't actually think it is, bullying is rife and there's also been a lot of discussion around the increase of sexual assaults that happen in schools too, even primary schools and that goes under the radar.

I totally understand why OP may be having an emotional reaction and want something made illegal based on this case , but the reality children are being abused in schools too and they slip through all sorts of radars.

I could actually multiple examples of children I know personally being chronically abused at school and fuck all is done about it.

Petergriffinschins · 17/12/2024 13:37

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 17/12/2024 13:28

@WhimsicalGubbins76 , your list of things you state (erroneously) that home educated children miss out on really goes to show how little you understand the subject.

I did home educate one of my sons until he was 12 and I agree with her.

I’ve seen kids miss out on all those things. I had to work really hard to ensure my son didn’t.

His two younger brothers have both always gone to school and all those things the poster mentioned came so much easier.

People say school is forced socialisation. so was home ed. Instead of being at school in a year of 90 kids to chose from (and kids in other years), he had to be friends with a much more limited number of children at home ed groups or activities.

I’ve only met a handful of other home educators in my time would would discuss any drawbacks. Most of the time I got shot down.

My son is an adult now and he was very relieved I was sending his two younger siblings to school, because of rhe above issues.

janfebmar87 · 17/12/2024 13:37

Nogaxeh · 17/12/2024 12:45

The government doesn't own people's children.

Either do the parents. Honestly education is fine but there needs to be some level of monitoring.

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 13:37

Birdscratch · 17/12/2024 13:34

It would be ludicrous to ban home ed. It would be sensible to insist on school attendance for children living in households where there have been accusations of abuse against an adult/adults living there and concerns about marks on the child. I was shocked that a child who has had SS involvement for suspected abuse can be removed from school when teachers have new concerns. Removal from school should trigger a huge red flag and have SS looking for evidence of abuse.

The problem there is the massive under resourcing of social services though - not enough social workers, caseloads far too high.
SS don't have the ability to thoroughly investigate every red flag currently.

BluebellCrocus · 17/12/2024 13:37

I hope that in future trying to remove a child from school who's been been considered at risk by SS will trigger huge alarm bells, as it should have done with Sara. Ditto not sending a child to school who's been considered at risk by SS.

Blueblell · 17/12/2024 13:38

No this case doesn’t prove that, just that there needs to be more oversight about parents motives when they take children out of school.

OhBling · 17/12/2024 13:38

I wasn't going to engage but....

Basic logic failure here from a lot of posters - POOR home education is not a reason to ban home education completely.

Children miss out on so much by not attending school. They miss out on socialisation with other kids, the friendship bonds, experiences, school trips, social lives… not to mention there’s a hell of a lot of parents out there who are simply not qualified to be teaching the kids at home.

There are far too many HE children whose HE is baking, playing video games and going to the shops. Their reports talk about the children learning weights and measurements through weighing ingredients, read through reading a recipe, arithmetic through using money at shops, writing through writing a shopping list, and socialisation through talking to shop staff and players on video games.

The reality is that GOOD home education absolutely can provide chidren with an excellent education and I know plenty of children who have been home educated and have gone on to study at university level. I do not home educate my children becuase it is absolutely true that if I did, my children would, at best, learn a few things from follownig me around and there isn't a chance in hell that they would reach a sufficient level of education to get a job mowing lawns, never mind go to university.

Proper oversight, clear guidelines re expectations etc is needed, not blanket accusations that children who are home educated aren't socialised.

TeamPolin · 17/12/2024 13:38

Most of the kids I know who are home educated are SEND kids who can't cope in mainstream. The system is not fit for purpose....

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 13:38

BobbyBiscuits · 17/12/2024 13:23

There doesn't seem to be enough input from educators. It seems like they just wash their hands of kids once the parent makes that decision. They should have to prove they are teaching the basics and if not then small groups or one to one tutoring offered, at a discounted rate. The state has an obligation towards all kids education below 16. But to criminalise the parents might be a step too far. Unless they are proven to be neglectful.

No way should the state be offering subsidised tutoring to HE families. The state provides school. If you want to do your own thing you have to pay for it. I do agree there needs to be proper oversight and many local authorities want to do this, but do not have the necessary legal powers.

Upstartled · 17/12/2024 13:38

I don't think it should be illegal. I don't think it should be a natural right though. It shouldn't be available to at risk children. And then, after that, more oversight is required.

OrwellianTimes · 17/12/2024 13:38

YABU.

It needs to be regulated and monitored, but not banned.

Powerofflower · 17/12/2024 13:38

The government need to understand mainstream schools need training on sen and to be able to provide suitable provision. Until that happens people will keep choosing home education. I’ve seen first hand how schools just want the attendance boxes ticked but fail to meet children’s needs. But on the other hand if there are safeguarding concerns at home yes schools may be safer.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 17/12/2024 13:38

I don’t think that it should be banned, although I’d like to see more support provided for children and their parents. It’s fairly easy for children to go “under the radar” while in mainstream education, but even easier if they are not seeing teachers and other people.

Mjmum10 · 17/12/2024 13:38

The Sara Sharif case did make me think about it, but ultimately no I think it has to be an option to home educate. Nothing was done to help the poor girl even when she was in school, yes teachers raised concerns but nothing was done ultimately. I think more children would suffer if we made it illegal, some kids are relentlessly bullied. If there are concerns about well-being at home however, home schooling shouldn't be allowed in my opinion.

RandomMusing · 17/12/2024 13:39

Basing my experience on the one child I know who was home schooled, I think there need to be many more controls. The child is finally back in school and has actually been put down a year because they were so far behind. I didn't even know this was possible!

I agree with the countries where to homeschool you have to either be a qualified teacher or be supervised by a qualified teacher who takes legal responsibility for your child's education; you have to provide a plan at the beginning of the academic year and a corresponding report at the end; you have to keep to the level of the national curriculum so your child can switch back into school without the issues above and you get inspected at least once a year.

KeebabSpider · 17/12/2024 13:39

I can only assume from your post op that state education equipped you with not a modicum of critical thinking or ability to think out of the box.

Punocchio · 17/12/2024 13:39

Petergriffinschins · 17/12/2024 13:37

I did home educate one of my sons until he was 12 and I agree with her.

I’ve seen kids miss out on all those things. I had to work really hard to ensure my son didn’t.

His two younger brothers have both always gone to school and all those things the poster mentioned came so much easier.

People say school is forced socialisation. so was home ed. Instead of being at school in a year of 90 kids to chose from (and kids in other years), he had to be friends with a much more limited number of children at home ed groups or activities.

I’ve only met a handful of other home educators in my time would would discuss any drawbacks. Most of the time I got shot down.

My son is an adult now and he was very relieved I was sending his two younger siblings to school, because of rhe above issues.

I do agree there is a significant problem in the community in that home educators are so defensive they won't admit that there are definite drawbacks to home ed.

I was one of the very few I came across who sat down and did planned learning with my DC.

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 13:39

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 13:36

Reports are really easy to do. Your HE may be fantastic, but reports do not prove it.
It is not that hard to do one or even a few GCSEs early if you are focussing on those. School educated children do lots of GCSEs at once, and that is very different from focussing on one or two GCSEs.

A huge percentage of school educated children fail their GCSEs, that's really not a model home educators want to emulate.

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 13:39

@OhBling You are quoting me. I have repeatedly said that HE should not be banned. But that there should be proper oversight. I am in HE community, I see some excellent HE and some terrible HE.

BobbyBiscuits · 17/12/2024 13:40

@DogInATent qualified/experienced teachers. That ideally I think should still oversee it. But I guess it sounds like Ofsted turning up to someone's house.

FelixtheAardvark · 17/12/2024 13:41

Why?
Contrary to a seemingly widely held belief, society's ills cannot be cured by legislation (i.e. "banning stuff").

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