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To think Home Education should be made illegal

776 replies

Viviennemary · 17/12/2024 12:43

I would like to see a ban on HE except perhaps in a very very few cases and with good reason and under strict supervision.

OP posts:
Hobnobswantshernameback · 17/12/2024 14:06

Hmm how strange
No sign of the OP 🤔

DreamyRedNewt · 17/12/2024 14:07

MamaWeasel · 17/12/2024 12:59

You are being very unreasonable. We homeschooled until the children chose to go to school when they were 9 and 10 respectively. They are now in their mid twenties with stable jobs, relationships and friendships. They did not miss out by being homeschooling, indeed their lives were enriched by being with like-minded children and adults.

How is your life enrichwn by being by like-minded people? Surely entichment comes from being exposed to many different things and people, not being on an echo chamber.
I actually think this is the bad thing about home educating, even if parents are loveing and do it well...you are likely to be with people just like you, and that's not good bevause life is not like that

user243245346 · 17/12/2024 14:07

"Home educated children are being educated (or ought to be, anyway)".

Except there's no one checking that they are being educated or the quality of their education. I have a child with sen and I can see why people home school but in most cases they are getting an inferior education. In some cases they are not being educated at all

12purplepencils · 17/12/2024 14:07

I think there should be safety checks
Not to tell the vast majority of HE-ers what do with their own children; when they have reasons for HE, but to try and protect the small minority

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 14:08

Brieandcamembert · 17/12/2024 13:56

Just out of interest, how do people fund it? At least one parent can't be working if they are at home, schooling the children.

Most parents work and work around each other (both work part time, one does evenings and weekends, opposite shifts) and use some childcare.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 17/12/2024 14:09

SharpOpalNewt · 17/12/2024 13:02

In the terrible recent case the school failed to spot the abuse all the time she was enrolled there. She was off roll for only a few weeks and was murdered in the school holidays.

Loads of kids are happy at home but then are sexually assaulted or routinely bullied or physically assaulted at school. Let's not pretend that it doesn't happen or that schools are great at dealing with it.

Edited

Not true!! Sara's school reported concerns to SS on three separate occasions.

FigTreeInEurope · 17/12/2024 14:10

What's next? Sterilize anyone who can't afford a David Lloyd gym membership?

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 14:11

@GenAvocadoOnToast It has always been legal to HE for any reason, but the numbers used to be very small. This was partly because few parents knew you could HE will no real oversight. The assumption amongst many parents was that either HE is illegal, or there would be lots of hoops to jump through.
The internet changed that view as more and more parents realised they could HE in whatever way they want to.
In terms of subjects like physics either:

  • their HE does not cover this subject, or only at a very basic level.
  • parents sign their children up to an online school that teaches through a virtual classroom
  • parents buy textbooks and let the child get on with it alone
  • parents have money and pay for a private tutor.
  • they send them to college once they hit 14 years of age

But the most common response is not to teach physics and say if their children are interested, they can learn at college when they are older.

kelsaycobbles · 17/12/2024 14:11

FigTreeInEurope · 17/12/2024 14:10

What's next? Sterilize anyone who can't afford a David Lloyd gym membership?

Erm? Don't take on logic teaching for your child please

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 14:12

OhBling · 17/12/2024 13:58

Well, for a start, HE children are not being educated by the state, saving the state a fortune. So it seems perfectly reasonable to me that the etate could use some of those savings to provide some bare minimum level of care and oversight?!

How expensive would it be to have someone physically see 100,000 children every month?
At the moment LAs only have to make contact in writing annually and lots don't even manage that.

Einaldilastcup · 17/12/2024 14:14

GenAvocadoOnToast · 17/12/2024 14:01

There is one family I know where the children are all home educated but seem to have very little in the way of education. No one ever seems to check up on them.

How does it actually work? For example, how are children taught something like physics if the parent doesn't understand physics themselves? My degree included a fair bit of physics but I wouldn't feel confident teaching it at all. And where do the study materials and lesson plans etc come from?

I was home schooled as a teenager due to depression but I was provided with a local authority teacher rather than taught by my parents. The teaching standard was good but I was only allocated 5-6 hours per week. I was terribly unprepared for GCSEs as a result so wasn't put forward for them, which then meant I couldn't do A Levels, which then meant I couldn't do a degree etc. I ended up having to do all that later in life and eventually got a BSc, but the whole thing was a constant uphill struggle with a fair bit of resentment along the way, and I feel so far behind.

I remember at the time (late 90s) being upset that there wasn't a smaller, more supportive school I could attend because I wanted to learn. I know that this is still a huge issue today and what does exist is limited, so I can completely understand how parents with children who can't cope with school for whatever reason find themselves in a position where there's no other option but to homeschool. But is there any actual support with it? Are they allocated any type of formal teaching at all, like I was? Maybe I was lucky to get those few hours a week

And parents who homeschool their children because they want to rather than a medical or developmental need for it, what happens there? Was that always legal or is it a more recent thing?

Forgive my ignorance, I'm just curious about this having been through similar myself 20 odd years ago. And annoyed that apparently nothing has changed.

Edited

There are many different ways to HE.

Some families follow the national curriculum and use the same online resources as schools do - some excellent sites - and a lot of them.

Some families use guided discovery so where ever the child’s interest goes at that time that’s what they study - some excellent sites for this. Some families get their kids to read the morning news to encourage reading and awareness of world news - away from the tv

Some families focus on what their child is good at and eager to learn/talented and focus on that.

I know some families who’s kids are already writing computer programs and they are 8/9

My friends kids go to a Stiener school. It’s bonkers and costs a lot. They do not follow the curriculum and don’t have set English and maths. Kids age range in a class can be from 5-18

People are just so used to the norm of state education they really can’t see that there is other ways to do it.

Houseshmouse · 17/12/2024 14:14

YABU to think that home education is to blame for Sara's death. Have you read how many times issues were flagged before she got taken out of school?

Onceuponatime9 · 17/12/2024 14:14

Until there are sufficient strategies in place to give the utmost support to children who have suffered tremendous anxiety from being bullied & the same for SEN children, home education will continue to be a vital part of society.

Threetimesthirty · 17/12/2024 14:15

TheDisillusionedAnarchist · 17/12/2024 13:23

Banning home education would tinker at the edges of the failing social care system. The reality is we do not want to fund social care sufficiently to protect children. 456 children died last year at the hands of their parents. How many were home educated?

The vast majority of abuse deaths occur among very young children. Should full time nursery be compulsory from age six weeks with daily visits from professionals until then?
This would be significantly more impactful than banning home education

The reality is that getting child protection right takes investment in terms of both money, training and status. It would work better centralised not council run. Too many families slip the net because they are very mobile.

Home education is not a safeguarding issue. But safeguarding issues about home educated children should be investigated appropriately and this is where the system often falls down. The high profile deaths of Dylan Seabridge and Khyra Ishaq were not due to home education but to the blurring of roles between Child protection and EHE teams. Investigations of child protection issues should be robust regardless of educational status.

Banning home education would also lead to a lot of children with significant SEND landing back into the school system. Its very expensive with little significant impact.

456 children in the UK alone or in the world?

Downing4packsofharibo · 17/12/2024 14:15

As an experienced teacher in mainstream, SEN and I’m now in a PRU. I have worked with many vulnerable, differently able kids over the years. I am now a mum as well and wouldn’t hesitate to pull my kids out and homeschool if I felt the education they were receiving wasn’t suitable. I have seen first hand the damage that some schools can do to kids and it’s really not a perfect system.

What happened to Sara wouldn’t have been prevented by banning home ed, kids avoid school for weeks on end and all we can do is send letters and threaten fines. You can’t force a family to send their children into school just so we can get a good look at them. Abusive parents will keep kids off if it suits them without using home education as an excuse.

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 17/12/2024 14:18

Disclaimer: not including special needs here

Most parents want to send their kids to the best school in an area to the extent they will lie about religion and/or move. They assume the teachers are qualified to teach their children in relation to knowledge and socialisation.
So why do some feel they are far more qualified to teach a a range of subjects, socialiation and discipline? It's ridiculous unless a parent is a qualified teacher.
Home schooling by morons or abusers should be illegal, yes.

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 17/12/2024 14:19

Perhaps they can try home abdominal surgery, or brain surgery...
Or home bus driving around the garden

Gloriia · 17/12/2024 14:19

Nogaxeh · 17/12/2024 12:45

The government doesn't own people's children.

What a strange thing to say.

Children's welfare is important. This applies to physical needs, psychological needs and of course educational development.

I don't think HE should be illegal but their attainment, development and welfare should be closely monitored. Isn't it? Do kids literally stay at home and no checks or assessments are made?

kelsaycobbles · 17/12/2024 14:20

An average of 1 child a week killed in uk typically by parent or step parent

So that's around 52 in the uk not over 400

Birdscratch · 17/12/2024 14:20

Primary School is about socialisation. Yes, you expect them to leave Yr6 able to read and write and to reach a certain level in maths but a lot of it is about learning how to be a person, independent from your family. You have to get along with people - including teachers - that you don’t like, you learn empathy and how to make and keep friends, you work through distractions and learn to be responsible for yourself and your things.

I’m sure that most able children, given one to one teaching, could learn faster and cover a much broader range of subjects than they manage to do in school. Then what? They’re ahead of their peer group academically but behind socially. If they do go to school the work is boring because they’ve already studied it. It makes me think of those 14 year olds you see in newspapers who’ve already done A Levels. They’re so isolated - they don’t fit in with children their own age and they can’t fit in with the students they’re in classes with. If you send DC to school you can still provide educational enrichment after school and in the holidays.

fluffyguineapig · 17/12/2024 14:21

It's interesting to me to see how many posters view schools as the ideal/only acceptable way to teach children. In mainstream they're crammed in 30+ to a room, desks all facing the teacher, having to sit still and quiet, moving at the government-decided pace, no time to spend more time on things if you haven't quite understood and if you already understand and you're bored you can do some busy work while you wait for everyone else. Not to mention bad teachers, bullying, classroom disruption due to behaviour of other children - it's clearly not ideal!

Some children obviously manage well, but we now know much better ways for children to learn but the education system is seriously underfunded and there's no way to implement many changes because resources are so stretched already.

Yes there are issues with homeschooling but it's just interesting to me that so many people think that all children should be placed into this system when it's clearly so flawed and unsuitable for so many.

MerryMaker · 17/12/2024 14:22

There are some excellent HE families. But all of those I know who do it very well are also intelligent, and have money to buy in extra resources, pay for clubs, or tutors as needed.
The worst HE families I see are those who are already struggling to manage day to day life. Either one or both the parents have mental health difficulties and/or a significant chronic health problem. These are the families who already struggled to get their children to school, and to meet their school requests e,g. kit on PE day, baking ingredients, etc. HE is a disaster for these families with the kids nearly always spending nearly all day playing video games or even spending many many hours in bed.

OhBling · 17/12/2024 14:22

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 14:12

How expensive would it be to have someone physically see 100,000 children every month?
At the moment LAs only have to make contact in writing annually and lots don't even manage that.

I don't know. But it's certainly cheaper than educating those 100,000 chidlren in full time education.

kelsaycobbles · 17/12/2024 14:22

There are multiple reasons why parents think they are better placed to educate the children

Some will be rational - many schools are failing some or all children

And sone will be arrogance - what I think of as the trump mentality that assumes the person knows better than anyone else in yen whole world no matter what subject - this attitude is growing in general

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/12/2024 14:23

TenderChicken · 17/12/2024 12:43

Why?

Because she has an article deadline