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Breaking up - handhold please

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runningaway90 · 16/12/2024 14:18

I have another long running thread where I've had so much support and finally leaving my partner. He has been emotionally and financially abusive I think and has had me paying 2/3 of the mortgage for years. He's been abusive to the dog I'd say too, pinning her down and yanking her lead for misbehaving. I'm finally leaving and we are sorting all the practical stuff. He's gone between being so nice and saying he will change, we can move house, not pay 2/3 mortgage anymore and all the rest. But also then blaming me and saying I'm so negative and it's all my anxiety, I never forgive him for anything and I've been terrible to him. Either way the relationship is just so so over and nothing can convince me to stay. But guess I just need a handhold to remind me I am doing the right thing. Just feels so scary at the moment but trying to keep moving forward.

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Lurkingandlearning · 16/12/2024 16:21

You are doing the right thing. Yes, keep moving forward and the fear will very likely become excitement for the happier life you deserve.

Jeschara · 16/12/2024 16:54

You are doing the right thing,
He is abusive and manipulating. He will not change. Saying you never forgive him for anything, tells you he is scared because he knows he is wrong. Do not give in.

runningaway90 · 16/12/2024 18:18

Thanks both, I go between fear and excitement at the moment. Just had a bit of a panic as it felt very real but feeling a bit more confident after having a word with myself!

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CC222 · 16/12/2024 19:05

This is the start of the rest of your life and an opportunity to find true happiness again. There may be tough moments ahead, but you will soon look back and know you made the best decision of your life. Well done for being so brave.
Keep moving forward and never look back. Keep all conversations with him to the bare minimum, no amount of talking will help you feel better. In fact it will just make you feel shit again. Even communicate the legal stuff through a solicitor if needed. Just keep well away from him.
You've got this ♥️

Goodadvice1980 · 16/12/2024 19:06

OP you are doing the right thing. Leave and take the poor dog with you 🐾🐾

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