Sister always showing off about designer life

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Me and my sister are reasonably close, we see each other weekly when we all go visit our parents. She recently got married and her husband is very well off. She is constantly talking about designer items and how rich she is etc.
I used to be quite well off but since giving birth to twins I have stopped working (they’re still babies) and my husband is the sole earner so naturally we don’t spend as recklessly as we did pre- kids.

It really gets annoying hearing all this designer talk, I am so blessed in my own life and don’t feel like I lack in anything, but hearing this constantly I don’t want it to affect my negatively or for me to start comparing etc.
After having my babies I realised money really isn’t everything, a happy home is all
you need but she makes it out like I am a pauper and she is above us all.

It can get a bit tiring when someone does that constantly, even if they are not doing it in a malicious way.

Op I can understand how galling and irritating this is but play the long game, just smile and nod your head, maybe add in the odd bit of gently mocking humour and let it all wash over you.

You know what the truly valuable things in life are, as does every other intelligent person who doesn’t buy in to consumerist clap trap.

Your sister can choose to be side-tracked if she wants. She has some insecurities obviously to be this way. Just repeat the sentence, “that’s nice but I have other priorities atm thanks” and let your dsis strut about and make herself look ridiculous!

Maybe the OP is being a baby bore, and her sister is reacting to that?

A good friend married a very rich and generous man and for a little while she was talking about this or that they spent or bought because she was verbally marvelling in some wonder that she was in this situation. (Her DH kept from her how rich he was and since they had met while both working abroad and she did not even meet his family or see his UK house until they were engaged it did stay hidden really). It was temporary thankfully because she is not a complete arse.

But if your sister is just being an arse then some of the responses on the thread are golden.

This is quite a nasty thread. If you’re truly happy in your own life I don’t see why it bothers you. Surely most normal people are happy for their friends/family if they’re able to achieve their goals, whether that’s buying lots of designer stuff or having a family.

Presumably it was fine when you could afford to splash out on these things? It does sound like there’s some jealousy there but it was your choice to give up work!

When she starts spouting off..fix a bored expression on your face and start talking about something else.

Could you have an affair with DS's DH? This way you could get some of the designer gear she gets?

oh god, the only thing I'd find more boring than someone boasting about their designer handbag is twittering on about how in love they are.

If my sister gave me a detailed breakdown about her romantic trip to the cinema with her husband I'd be feigning a phone call. What is there to even say? "He bought me popcorn out of his own account rather than the joint one and held my hand through the scary bits?" That's like a breakdown of your first date as a 14 year old. Surely two adult sisters have something more interesting to talk about!

It’s not about how boring / exciting you find the conversation is it? That’s irrelevant.

Most newlyweds act loved up. It’s an opportunity for a kind sister to check if all is well, and to move the conversation on to more interesting topics.

Sorry I should have said “if she has kids”

I am happy without designer nonsense do I would be eye-rolling internally and then laughing about it later with DH. Our priority is sustainability so we try to buy as much second-hand as possible.

I would find her attitude juvenile and amusing.

Call her out on it. I get it that you now have money and can afford things that you weren't able to before but it's a little crass to talk like that.