Sick of making an effort with my dad?

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Hello all, I’m feeling a bit sad tonight but unsure if I’m just being unreasonable?

I’ve already lost one parent, mum died 7 years ago so obviously I do want to enjoy having one parent but when it comes to my dad it always me going to see him, always me texting first. He never comes to see me and my boys and never rings me if I haven’t seen him.

Dad lives 15 minutes away so very close, I always have to text him first to see if he’s in before visiting and most of the time he makes an excuse so I can’t visit like illness but he’s ok going out with his friends to the pub. My boys are well behaved so I know that isn’t an issue.

I get on really well with him and we always have a laugh, not had any arguments. I just feel really crap about him not making more of an effort.

Sorry OP I can't think what to say except that that is very sad and strange.
Is it possible that he finds your boys very tiring or something like that? Do you ever see him alone?

Life is too short to chase people, even parents. Don't work yourself up about your dad, he obviously isn't too worked up. Could you plan once a fortnight/month lunch or dinner and leave any extra visits up to your dad?

Could it be that your Dad isn't keeping on top of things in the house and doesn't want you to see it, do you remind him of your mum? There could be loads of reasons why he doesn't visit you, he might not want to be a nuisance.

Can you have a conversation with him about all this?