Stray cat thread 2

[scorpiogirly]

I posted a while ago about this stray cat, thread below if anyone is interested.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5205105-stray-cat

So I've been looking after him, feeding him and housing him at night.

I made a last ditch attempt to contact the owner. I've been worried about the cat as I live on a busy main road. I've seen him twice now just wandering into thw road. Once he was just sat there so I am not wondering how road smart he actually is and I'm concerned about him getting hurt. I've contacted the owners again with this information. The mother (the owner) didn't even bother to reply to me. The daughter said she would let the mother know. Nothing from either of them.

I just don't know what to do. I mentioned that I have a bad cat allergy in my previous thread and this is just getting worse.

The cat has been fine but is clearly unhappy. He tried to bite my daughter last week although didn't do any damage.

I have contacted numerous rehoming places and they are all full.

I'm absolutely fucking fuming with the owner for acting this way.

Any advice greatly appreciated.

Gosh that's hard. Poor cat. And good for you for caring. Where abouts in the UK? Obviously general area not exact!
I used to do cat rescue with a local rescue and it was heart breaking as it was relentless with so many cats needing help.
I can possibly give some ideas of rescues to approach in London/South East area (if you are there).
Otherwise there are very few options at the moment. Which is why so many cats are dumped at the vets and outside rescues. Have you spoken to the smaller rescues rather than the rspca etc?

I'm in South Wales. I've tried the local ones. I can't just dump him out onto the street. I'm just fuming. The cat was apparently the dad's cat before he passed away. So now obviously the mother has decided she can't be bothered with him. I'm just waiting for the daughter to message me again. She even said herself she has noticed her mother hasn't said anything about the cat. She's going to get a piece of my mind next time she does.

And to add insult to injury, they're both sharing posts of missing cats, not once have they posted about this one.

He goes out whenever and then he is always back in the nights and comes straight in. I've never had a cat so haven't got a clue about them.

He probably looks healthy because I've been feeding him 😆 he was bogging when I first came across him. He's been used to getting his food here and coming in for about 8 weeks now. I couldn't just ignore him and let him fend for himself.

I think this is quite unfair. I'm just trying to help an unwanted cat.

PM'd you @scorpiogirly x

I think that if the owners husband has died, you don't need to give her a piece of your mind as she's probably deep in grief.

Do talk to her once and for all about what you want to do

If you want to adopt him, get yourself some fexofenedine 120 from the chemist, or 180mg via prescription (depending on how good your GP is), to help with your allergies.

Im on 180 and got myself a cat and have been fine despite having a million and one allergies.

How old is your dd? If she's a young child, maybe you shouldn't adopt a cat that scratches?

My cat goes out in the mornings and comes back for lunch and again before it gets dark. If he's coming to you at night, it may be that he feels at home with you, and has chosen you for his family

Main thing to do is to speak to the mum once and for all, in a very non judgemental way. We all know how we should behave but you've no idea what this poor woman has had to survive. Do your best to be kind.

Best of luck x

The husband's death isn't recent. As the son told me he passed years ago. What's bothered me if feigning interest in getting him back at first, then knowing where he is for 2 not bothering at all. Then sharing missing cat picture left right and centre with no care for your own. I'm already on fexofenadine and have been taking a double dose.

When I said a piece of my mind, I don't don't mean I would be rude. Just a case of telling them that they clearly have no interest in getting their cat back. As I said, the daughter messages me every few weeks. I reply and nothing comes of it. I should have mentioned that the mother has told the daughter that the RSPCA have said they're going to try to catch him. Where this tale came from I do not know.

Well it's up to you as to whether you want the cat tbh

The woman sounds a mess and is probably still grieving - unfortunately some people are just all over the place

How old is your daughter? Just keep the cat if you want to keep him, he's obviously adopted you of he's already coming back and forth and coming back to yours ar night, if I've read it correctly? I've not read your first thread. In your shoes I'd either keep him and don't contact the previous owners if you are 100% sure they don't want him back, or just stop feeding him and letting him in. He will soon move on or go back home.