Lost faith in men

[D1vorcedmuma]

Let's start by saying that I've never considered myself highly attractive. I make jokes that 'its takes a lot to look this average ' I am short, dark hair and flat chested. There is nothing wrong with this. I am happy with how I am and have a more outgoing personality. Last night I went out, which I only have done a handful of times since my divorce (I am single mum) whilst I was out 4 men, 3 of which definitely had gf/wife all pushed boundaries with me which completely overstepped the mark. They were complementing me, trying to stroke me, hold my hand, hug and even one tried for a kiss. Now my husband cheated on me and I would never want to be the woman who did this to another woman. Yes drink was involved for them. But I want to know how am I supposed to trust men? It seems that there are no more good ones about. I am worried about dating and having feelings only to be hurt again. Also I have a young child and I have to consider her. I am so disappointed in what has happened to me I was married 11 years, and disappointed in witnessing men's behaviour since. Am I being unreasonable to think that there are no good men. I just can't find them?

Whilst such behaviour is unacceptable, maybe you could think about the settings in which you come across these men? Saturday night, just before Xmas, they were drinking heavily... They were creepy but I don't think they were representative of all mankind. Hopefully, they were good humoured enough that you could put them back in their place easily.

When you are ready to date again, maybe you could look at different places to meet the men who don't feel the need to go out on the pull on a Saturday night despite having a partner. Or perfect a to way quickly discourage those that do so the way is open for you to meet a nice guy.

@ForPearlViper thank you, yes I definitely don't think this would be the right environment to meet me right. I live in a small town however and there aren't too many places I could go, especially as I also have childcare to consider. I'm sure there are good men it's just a trust issue on my part I guess with my past I would need to get over. But these behaviours are not very encouraging in helping.