Excessive force in nursery

[TheLoyalFinch]

DD is 3 with a speech delay, we have only recently put them into child care due to this and the concerns that come along with it.

While waiting outside to collect Dd from nursery, I head a child start to cry which I recognise as them. It continued to escalate, DD wasn’t at the door as usual so I asked the staff member if that was my DD I could hear and if I could go get them.

When I reached the room they were visibly distressed head back absolutely bawling. There was a worker bent down shouting No in DDs face while forcibly yanking them into their coat.

I intervened and picked them up. Dd was saying “Ow ow” and was utterly beside themselves.

I have contacted the nursery and in response tried to dismiss my concerns so… is this acceptable or usual behaviour from child care providers?

This sounds awful. Have you removed your child from the nursery and put in a formal complaint? As there’s an accusation they should be investigating themselves. I would be tempted to call ofsted

That is unacceptable. I would not be taking my child to that nursery again.

What do you mean you have contacted the nursery? What did you say to the worker shouting in your DD’s face? I would have sorted it out there and then.

Are you sending her back?

Do not ever let your child be in that setting again. Complain vociferously and repeatedly to anyone you can think of. Horrific behaviour.

Of course this is not acceptable in no way shape or form! I am hoping you removed your child with immediate affect, but if not you must do so....make a formal complaint and report to OFSTED.And publicise the nursery in a negative light to whoever you can to warn other parents off.Hopefully the member of staff will have a disciplinary and leave, but even so others must have known what they were like and probably didn't whistleblow, which makes it a bad nursery.
I am suprised you are so restrained about this.....I would have gone mad if that was my child!

this has made me so upset to read, please do report it to ofsted, for other children’s sakes and change your child’s nursery

The people who run my child’s nursery are very loving & caring, and would never treat the children like this. Any issues with DS behaviour, they discuss it with me on the day.

I think it’s normal for a parent to sometimes lose it with their child (I feel absolutely terrible afterwards, if it happens to me & DS) but not okay for a childcare worker to interact like this.

Obviously don’t send her back. But you need to report this to whoever gives nurseries their accreditation and possibly to the police.

Oh i’d have been absolutely furious and big complaint would be going in.