Does anyone else feel a bit like this at the moment

[Sowhatnextandnow]

A bit down, empty and flat?

Really feel like i’m going through the Christmas motions for Dd at the moment. I’m usually quite excited by it all at Christmas

I was just thinking this. I love Christmas and have waited for it since September

Maybe I was too excited as now I just feel flat and miserable

Yeah very. I lost my Dad last Christmas and I am struggling so much, trying to keep going for my children

I don’t have the energy for it that I usually summon up. I started shopping months later and I didn’t do the fancy advent calendars I normally do. I don’t know why.

YES! I absolutely love Christmas (I pretty much live for it 😂) and it just feels pretty flat this year. I’m hoping it’ll feel better in the last week or so. I’m missing frosty mornings.

The weather is hardly helping. It feels like we haven’t seen the sky for weeks. It’s really getting me down.

Yes, I always find Christmas a bit stressful anyway . And this year I’ve been pretty down, I lost a sibling earlier in the year, and I don’t have any work at the moment which has hit my self esteem badly.

I agree, when the weather is grey cloudy and miserable (plus cold) it really lowers my mood, and we have had a lot of that sort of weather recently with more to come. This morning the sun was shining in a blue sky and my mood lifted considerably, while it lasted

yes I love Christmas and I’ve been so excited for this one but now it’s here I feel flat. Mainly I think because my youngest isn’t sleeping well so we are in the depths of sleep deprivation and work is hectic so not exactly winding down. Bought all the presents super early and now have no energy to wrap them, let alone sort food etc

Yep, haven't even put up half the decorations I usually do. Not watched and christmas movies (usually aim for one each night we don't have after school clubs). Nearly finished the shopping, which is great, but actually made very little attempt to hide any of it. I usually love christmas as though I'm an overgrown child 🤷

Same. I’ve never done it before but really considering seeing can I get away to a bit of sun in January. I’m struggling with the thought of having to live like this until March/April….

Totally. I have every year since my Ex H left and blew up our family.
I used to love Christmas my whole life until 2021.
I never understood why my mum disliked it (her parents divorced) until it happened to me.
I put on a smile and make sure the kids get what they want and that have a good time.
My ex and I skirt around Christmas arrangements until the very last minute each year. Poor kids spend some time here and some time there. (Luckily close)
I hate all of it and can't wait til it's over and all put away again.
So sad now.

Yes. Thanks for the thread op as it's nice to be able to write it out. I love Christmas normally. But I feel so low and depressed atm. I feel really guilty feeling this way as nothing specific is wrong.

Yup, Christmas '21 DH came home for his last Christmas, we didn't have much support so most of his care fell to me, I do wonder if I have PTSD from it all. I try to like Christmas again but I just want it to be over.

Yes. I think it might be because I have been so ill last 3 weeks with some flu virus thing but had to go to work.

Also my daughter is working Xmas day (police) and I ll hardly see her.

I haven't done the Christmas tree yet as cba and have no energy left after work. Going to the supermarket is energy sapping and I can barely breathe.

My son and his fiancee are here and he's ill too.

10 days. I hope I get a miracle like last year when I felt like this then rescued a little black kitten boy dumped in a box at 4 weeks old and that made Christmas!

Sometimes I think people have an unrealistic expectation that 1st Dec arrives and here's Christmas. Working up till 20th so it's not realistic.

Christmas used to begin for us as kids around 15 Dec (auntie s birthday when we put up the tree) so I m not expecting Christmas spirit till then .

Although Christmas songs in Sainsbury's tonight did start a little hope and excitement.

I was saying this to my mum earlier today. I have two young children and I'm trying to be excited for them but deep down I cannot be arsed 🤦‍♀️ I was in a supermarket today and they had the Christmas music on and all the decorations etc and I remember how excited I felt as a kid but now it just feels like one big chore. Feel like I need to snap out of this soon!!

It has been harrowingly busy at work and with my personal life for months and months. I cannot wait for Christmas to eat a ton of food and loaf around.

I've had years when I've felt that way. I don't think we can all be expected to be excited about something every year. We all have things going on.
I'm now at an age where I'm counting my blessings (54) so when I start to feel I can't be arsed with it all, I give myself a bit of a talking to, take stock, remind myself of what's important (sorry, that does sound wanky but it's working for me at the moment) and think of what I am looking forward to.

I don't decorate until about a week before Xmas - earlier this year though because of when the w/e falls and (because I seem to work better under pressure) don't get all the organising done until right up to the day.

I don't think I'd be able to keep the momentum going for weeks and weeks. I'm always a bit bewildered at the "who's still got presents to buy" threads in November!

I'm also feeling a bit flat. DCs are of an age that means we no longer have that relentless but lovely buzz of excitement in the house and no more school nativity plays, carols etc.

I tried to be more organized this year so that I can enjoy the days leading up to Christmas but like PP above I don't seem to have a real sense of anticipation. I don't know if the two are related.

Mainly I think the flat feeling comes from not being at home. It's our 'turn' to visit family but I'm getting a CBA feeling - long car journey, different expectations, and I always feel a bit homesick. Daft, I know, but miss little things like creature comforts, favourite food, trips out etc and it feels as if we prepared for. Christmas that never quite happened. I have no living immediate family so traditions seem to be fading.

It definitely feels more low key this year and I can’t work out why. Cost of living? State of the world and worry about what’s to come? Turbulent year domestically? Weather?

I am normally bouncing up and done by this point but it feels like any other day to be honest. Even the shops have pared down their Xmas lines and decorations, M&S has been woeful this year.

Sorry to hear you all feel like this but in a way reassuring to know it's not just me!

I feel stressed, snappy and overwhelmed. I actually tried to get a doctors appointment on Friday to see if he could prescribe me something short term for it but of course I couldn't get an appointment!

I have a couple of Christmassy days planned today and tomorrow with my children so hoping that they enjoy them.

One of them has autism and it can be difficult spending time with my parents (where we are going on Christmas day) which I think is adding to my stress as he doesn't want to go. But I can't leave them on their own.

Just going through the motions here as well. I've not put up one decoration, not done one Christmas thing.. I've said to my DH at 49 with grown kids it's like I've just run out of Christmas puff.

I've had an aching gallbladder, not looking forward to food, drinks anything really.

Everyone around me is sick or sneezing and I'd just like to hibernate until it's all gone away.