AIBU to end this flaky friendship ?
3 years ago I adopted a young school aged child. Solo adopter. I was not able to return to work due to my child's additional needs.
A workmate kept in touch with me. We have only met up 3x in 3 years. The first year or so we messaged regularly. In the last 2 years everytime I message my friend it took her months to reply. She then says "let's meet up". I give her some dates. We arrange a date. She then cancels on me, then messages months later and the whole thing repeats. Amidst all this we did meet up 3x in these 3 years.
I had not heard from her for over 6 months and had consigned her to the ''friendship has ended after drifting apart box'. She completely out of the blue messaged full of apologies and asked to meet up. I explained I was upset with what had been happening and the negative effect on my child. My child kept getting excited at meeting her and then being let down. Remember that my child has significant additional needs and requires stability. My friend was again full of apologies and said yes let's meet. She then didn't message again for 6 weeks and we set a date to meet up. Then a few days later said she couldn't meet up, and has asked if can we meet another day - one day this week. I've said we are busy. She's said can you find time ?
I am obviously extremely p*ssed off and my child is in tears.
My friend says she's been under a lot of stress at home/life - hence all the flakyness.
ICBA anymore..... as it's like a washing machine on repeat ! Life is challenging enough with my very high needs child to deal with a friend who isn't much of a friend !
Would you try yet again ?
Would you ignore her last message ?
Would you 'have it out with her and tell her to do one's and then block ?
Would you just block her from this point ?
Normally I just don't reply to people/contact them if a friendship has drifted. But this friend has let us down so much and I am p*ssed off.
Thanks if you read it this far. Reading this back it sounds bonkers....