My husband and I recently had a conversation where he told me that one of his coworkers has a crush on him. He found out through another coworker, who shared this with him. He also mentioned that this woman sometimes jokes around, telling others, “He is mine,” especially when he’s talking to other female colleagues. At first, we laughed about it, and he said he couldn’t believe someone would still be interested in him because he doesn’t put much effort into his appearance.
For context, my husband is quite handsome and looks great for his age—he’s turning 40 soon. When I asked him what she looked like, he didn’t give me a clear description but did say she’s not ugly. Initially, it was lighthearted and amusing, but a few days later, he mentioned that another male colleague told him that this woman is “hot.”
After hearing that, I started to feel uncomfortable and a bit insecure, especially since I’ve gained 15 pounds after two pregnancies. When I asked him about his interactions with her, he reassured me that they don’t talk much outside of work-related matters. She’s a receptionist, and he works in healthcare, so their roles don’t involve much direct interaction.
I really appreciate him opening up and talking about this with me but still I feel uneasy and bothered by it.
Am I being unreasonable for feeling annoyed and a little insecure about myself and our relationship?