To keep away from this person

[Frenchie01]

So my aunt has recently told me her husband in late 70s has been arrested. Police turned up at their house and seized laptops etc saying someone at that house had been downloading indecent images of children. They both went to the station, her phone was examined and was clear and he is the only one who uses computers, nobody else in the house. Police told her over a 1000 category A images were downloaded. He tried to say to her this had happened because he chats to adult women online ( she knows this) and had given one of them his email address so it could have happened like that which I know is bullshit. He then admitted speaking to a man of a similar age to him who was advertising his 17 yr old granddaughter for sex and admitted he was planning one meeting with this girl to pay for sex. (I know shocking) and this could be another explanation as to how he's been "set up". Police told my auntie the images were downloaded using his IP address and there is no way it can have happened any other way. Now she is telling me it's all been one huge mistake and he's an innocent old man, I have said I don't want amything to do with him whatsoever as I think she's just saying this because she wants to brush it all under the carpet and regrets telling me.

1000 cat a images??

I mean, come on

I know, it's blindingly obvious he's guilty but she's just spinning this ridiculous story about the IP address been hacked and the police making a mistake. It's plain to me she regrets telling family in the first place because she wants to stay with him so is just attempting to smooth it all over, which makes me feel she's almost as bad as him.

Anothrt women believing what she wants of a man

You know you are not being unreasonable so don't be like her think for yourself, maybe women should be taught this in schools

Of course it's not a mistake. He's got tons of CSA shit on HIS computer/devices. Even if it was sent by someone else he's still committing a crime.
What a fucking sicko. Tell her you will help her arrange a divorce. She may not want to hear it but how can she stay with a paedo?

Hi Op, so sorry you’re going through this - you are justifiably extremely disappointed by your aunt and it must be so confusing thinking she is one person and then seeing her act in such a spineless immoral way (blaming the teenager!!). She has obviously been groomed by him (being ok with him talking to women?!) but really it isn’t an excuse. You are within your rights to take some space and tell her why. Hopefully she’ll come round but the layer of denial is clearly deep at this stage. Your uncle is a sick weirdo and thank god he hasn’t been near your kids.

Op this is awful. I really feel for your aunt. Of course it's hard for her to believe this is true. Further isolating her won't help her realise or heal. I would 100% ban anyone from.going to their house and any contact with him. I would not ban your Auntie though, as long as she agrees not to speak about him in anyway. She needs support not casting out.

The thing is though I can't really get past this being OK with him meeting this young girl for sex and then painting him as a vulnerable old man when it's clearly the reverse and she's not willing to accept him being cut off she's adamant it's a mistake and me and my husband are victimising him by saying we don't want anything to do with him again.

Do they have any children and/or grandchildren? If so, are they staying in contact?

You are absolutely right to end your relationship with your aunt and uncle. He is a paedophile and sex offender and she is an enabler. She would rather blame the victims than admit the truth about her husband. Unfortunately, this isn't unusual behaviour from the wives/partners of sex offenders. Just keep away from them and block them on all platforms.

She has an adult and 19r old granddaughter, the granddaughter he has been very involved with since birth. They are aware of whats happenedn but are agreeing with her that someone has hacked the IP address and been downloading somewhere else using his IP address.

But the material has been found on his computer so that excuse is dead. You know what he has done, keep the reality in mind not his excuses.

I'm assuming that OP's relative's computer would have been forensically examined by police IT experts before charges were brought. The wife, adult child and grand-daughter are in denial about the Category A images of CSA, despite knowing and defending the fact that their elderly husband/father/grandfather had solicited a 17 year old girl for sex.

I would cut off contact with all of them. You do not need such people in your life.

So they believe some bogey man hacked their IP and planted images in his computer? They are also explaining away the fact that he was willing to pay money to rape a 17 year old girl, a girl close in age to her own granddaughter?

I would have nothing to do with any of the adults, I would contact the granddaughter to tell her if she ever needed anything, I would be available anytime no questions asked. There's shock, there's denial but then there's enablers, aunt is an enabler.