To improve house if we stay? (Long)

[Twoshoesnewshoes]

More of a WWYD really.

im always looking at property in my area, for years now. I do enjoy looking but emotionally it’s quite draining.

we have a lovely house we’ve been in for several years. Two downsides- it’s semi detached and it’s in a small place with few amenities.

so I’ve been looking for detached houses in nearby towns, it’s so hard. Our house is not worth so much as it’s a semi and DP won’t compromise on types of property, rules things out eg its on a cul de sac, I’m not living in a bungalow etc.

im tired of looking tbh.

we definitely plan to move to a place by the sea in around ten years, I had anticipated one more move before then.

maybe we should stay here until that move?
we are currently trying to save £1k a month for adult DC (necessary), and I’ve changed job so earning less.

i could - add £35k to the mortgage for the DCs so don’t need to save each month and that would be fine on my new income.
and improve this house - change layout very minorly as I really dislike open plan lounge, etc - probably about £3-4 all in.

our neighbours are lovely and we don’t get lots of noise through, I’m just very sensitive to any we do get.

DP would be happy to stay but doesn’t want to make any changes to the house.

thanks so much if you made it through all the waffle - I’d really value some thoughts and opinions.

It depends on outlay Vs profit...

If you're going to move anyway I'd make the property nicely presentable but not to personal, after all you've still got to live there so want it nice but not throw money at it and see no return.

You've adult DC will they be finding their own place if so I'd probably wait until then, save on stamp duty and other costs, and hopefully itll be a forever home.

I'd also say, as in a lot of cases where house buying is the focus on any forum, DP's/DH's/DW's need to be a bit more open to compromise instead of them having a majority say of what/where the property should be/look like.

Both parties will be living there it should be a joint decision.

Thanks @Trumptonagain yes it feels that DP isn’t compromising. Cos he’s happy here, happy to move to the right place (but doesn’t want to look, or compromise on property).
does it seem like madness to increase our mortgage to stay here?

Dont increase the mortgage, make it your home, pretty and comfortable and then when the time is right move.
Every time I have moved house its cost me £5,000 minimum. You want the dream house in as fewer moves as possible

Thank you, good advice.
i think i also answered my own question too, as i asked myself if i could stay here another ten years (and therefore skip a move) and my response was a clear ‘god no!’ 😂
so undecided as to whether to spend £2k on sorting the layout- I know that if I do I’ll see the next house a month later, if I don’t I’ll wait three years!

Why doesn't he want a house on a cul de sac?

Ummm not necessarily a cul de sac being the issue, just newer houses that look similar- not character properties - though our previous house was on a cul de sac and very nice!

I would 100% spend £2-4k on our house to make my husband happier for 10 years, even if I didn't personally feel strongly about it. I think spending a bit to improve it makes perfect sense - anything less is not a compromise, just him getting it all his own way and you capitulating on everything.