Neighbours and parcels

[LA1311]

My partner works from home and I’m currently home on maternity leave. Our next door neighbours are aware of this, they are young and both work full time.

Nearly every day we are getting parcels for them, it’s getting beyond a joke now. I’ve I’m not home my partner, keeps being disturbed from his work and having to go downstairs to answer the door.

It’s not too bad if I’m home, but it’s still a pain and multiple times if I’ve not answered the door because the baby is napping on me and I can see the delivery driver and know it’s not ours I’ve had the delivery drivers coming and banging on the living room window and waking the baby up.

If we’re not home, we’ve had delivery drivers searching all over our property to leave the parcel, because we’ve got a garden and a side entrance.

I didn’t mind taking the odd parcel for them but this is getting silly now.

It’s not even like they come and collect the parcels from ours, they will sit at ours until we take them around to them. She must know that they have been delivered because she will have had notifications.

AIBU for refusing her parcels and asking her to leave delivery instructions not to leave parcels with us?

Sometimes it's a case you know you'll be at home most of the day and the courier comes while you're on the school run or have popped out to get some lunch. They don't all send time slots or notifications.

I WFH most of the time now so not a problem but we had a neighbour who was retired who'd end up with our parcels. They'd always take them but then I could see they were getting fed up. When given the option I used to put don't leave with neighbours but even then couriers didn't always take notice.

Are you also exhausted with a baby?

You don't have to be exhausted with a baby to object to people taking the mickey.

I’m not exhausted.

I don’t have a baby.

I just object to my fuckwit neighbours treating my hallway like a storage locker. After they left one parcel three weeks despite being reminded three times as we crossed paths de icing the cars, despite them being out and about every day (ie not ill or away), I decided ‘fuck that’.

Next parcel that came for them I declined. It went to my other neighbour who, three days later, knocked on my door sounding irritated that I hadn’t fetched my parcel. I pointed out it wasn’t mine and shut the door. Not my parcel, not my problem. These same neighbours though (the ones who DID take the parcel), I accept parcels for them because they’re prompt with collection.

Refuse to take them. The drivers will find someone else to do it soon enough.
And definitely stop taking their parcels round! What did their last servant die of?

Neighbour put a note on her door asking could the parcels be delivered to mine. First I’d heard. I’ve done it before but this time I wasn’t asked. I don’t mind too much but I don’t want to be kept talking at the pick up.

It's neighbourly to check first before giving out a neighbour's address as a safe place. With multiple parcels from different couriers it sounds like this is qhat has happened.

Just put a note on your door saying 'No deliveries accepted for number XY'.

Honestly this happens sometimes when I'm having a lie in or in the shower, I just don't answer, it's not your problem

I have a laminated note on the front door saying "Please only knock with parcels for this address - night worker and baby sleeping"

Only reason why I voted YABU is because you seem to think that your neighbours have instructed the delivery people to leave parcels at yours - no matter how many times I click on "leave at safe place" and I specifically say "do not leave with neighbour", guess where my parcels end up.

Definitely say no to the couriers though! It's not your job to collect them.

This is what I did.

Then CF neighbour came stomping over demanding to know why I wasn't taking in her sodding parcels. I told her to do one.

As Nancy Reagan said... "Just say no."

So you saw them three times, close enough to speak, and instead of going to get the parcel and giving it to them, chose to just say ‘I’ve got your parcel’ and leave it at that? And you saw them multiple times being out and about and didn’t offer them the parcel? It can only be concluded that the three week delay was your fault.

My neighbours always ask me if they are expecting something and need to go out.
And they have said they are happy to take in parcels for me. But I usually have a safe place and die oft thus on my orders (not just Amazon).
I once told a courier I'd accept a delivery on behalf of a neighbour across the street and he returned with three cases of wine! I stupidly still accepted it. The neighbour was so outraged she called the courier to return and bring them over (she was elderly - I didn't know this - and I was very pregnant at the time). They did it.

There are delivery lockers all over the place now - outside supermarkets, at petrol stations. For people not home to accept deliveries, they are brilliant. Trr we ll your neighbours to have their parcrr ed ls delivered there.

Well, they saw me three times, close enough to speak, and instead of saying ‘yes, I’ll walk up your garden path and fetch it from your hallway right now’, they chose to just say ‘ok I’ll collect it later’. And they saw me multiple times being out and about and didn’t offer to fetch their own parcel. It can only be concluded that the three week delay was their fault.

OK, so you don't want to stay in, then you need to accept that if you miss tow deliveries from RM you will need to go to a sorting office or ask for the parcel to be redelivered.

If the postie hides the parcel behind a bush, in a plant pot etc, you need to take responsibility that they are trying to get the parcel to you as quickly as possible.

I recently took in parcels for a couple of different neighbours. They never collected them, despite reminders. Fucking weirdos.

I only took the parcels as I felt sorry for the delivery guy.

This. Just say sorry we are going away. Bye

We've had to refuse all neighbours parcels. There are way too many stairs for 3 disabled people to navigate multiple times in the name of running a parcel drop off service for my able bodied neighbours in their 20s who WFH every single day.

@LA1311 AIBU for refusing her parcels and asking her to leave delivery instructions not to leave parcels with us?

Do refuse the parcels. The drivers will soon learn.

Don't confront the neighbours about it. Just leave things to take the natural course.

Well I can explain it... some of us work full time, very long hours, out of the house! Sorry if that's confusing!!

Thay said I'd be mortified if I knew a neighbour was being put out like the OP. We have a parcel box next to our house and delivery workers tend to pop parcels in there, or on our doorstep. Nobody is bothered by us in that respect.

But to suggest that you don't know why people order stuff to be delivered knowing that they'll be out is pretty ridiculous.

I'm in a flat and always use the delivery lockers at local supermarkets now (and often save delivery charges doing this). I used to say 'leave on the mat' but they nearly always knocked at my neighbour who has Alzheimers and who certainly didn't appreciate me knocking later as well! Our old Evri used to throw everything at the bottom of the stairs 'because his legs were bad' and I just feel sorry for the new one who has to call back 3 times if I'm not in but doesn't earn any extra. Amazon/Inpost lockers all the way.

What is the matter with MN at the moment? So many posts here showing women
Seemingly unable to make a simple decision for themselves, or unwilling/scared to deal with crap service/behaviour from others.
A recent poster was looking for a school that would facilitate the daughter to be a 'dominant professional' woman. She was largely ridiculed, but after recent threads, I think she has a point.

Why give a pathetic excuse?
Just tell neighbour you won't be accepting their shit any more as from now.