I have gone and cancelled Christmas at my house after a big fallout with my mum and the stress of it all.
Basically my mum asked me if we could have Christmas at mine, which I was fine with, but didn't want my grandma and aunt to be invited (on my dad's side, my mum and dad are still together, but she doesnt like my dads mum). I am close with my grandma, and my mum also goes on a cruise with my dad, his mum, and sister every year (paid for by my grandma).
My mum then changed her mind, somewhat reluntantly and said they could be invited (my mum seems to think its her decision who is around mine for christmas, and I was always going to invited them anyway). So I went ahead and invited them. I then asked my mum if she knew if my brother would be coming, to which she replied 'what do you think? I doubt he will want to come now considering you have gone and invited them'
She bloody said they could come??? And now I am being blamed for my brother potentially not wanting to come because of this.
Tbh, I wanted a relaxing Christmas and wasn't fussed who came for Christmas day, but I wasn't going to intentionally leave anyone out. If whoever doesn't want to come, that is fine.
This is not the only issue I have had with my mum (I won't go into it here though, I'd be here all day), So having had enough of it all and the stress of trying to keep everyone happy, I have said to my mum that I am not longer hosting Christmas.
I think I have overreacted with cancelling christmas but not at being pissed off with my mum. Are these normal family squabbles? Or is my mum completely out of order? Sometimes, I lose perspective. My mum says I blow things out of proportion, but I also feel gaslighted by her when she says this.