Husband is unhappy if I invite my friends

[Newname85]

but happily invites his friends over.

If I say my friends are coming over, all the talk about how we have more important things to do, how we can’t afford to waste time, how we need to spend quality time with kids - all this comes up.
But the week after, his friends are coming for tea, and staying for dinner.

I don’t understand how someone doesn’t realise how nasty they are!

He’s really controlling. He’s probably controlling about other things as well.

For now, see your friends somewhere else. Stop providing food and labour for his friends. You shouldn’t be doing that anyway.

To give you some idea op how absurd this is, reverse the whole situation.

So when you invite your friends over, he is welcoming, makes snacks and tea and disappears.

And when he invites his friends over, you tell him not to do too much cooking, then tell him he's not having them, then sulk.

No?

Then you have a deeply unhealthy, unequal relationship.

I wouldn't personally tolerate it, I'd divorce, but I'm aware it's not always that easy.

He’s being a wanker, I wouldn’t stand for this

Have you pointed out this double standard to him? How does he defend not wanting your friends to visit but expecting you to host his friends?

Point him to the door!!!

Stop hosting his mates. He is presumably a fully functioning adult?