Children's bath

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My husband is generally the one doing the kids' bath (3 yo boy, 1.5 yo girl). Since they started taking their bath together a few months ago, our son started "helping papa" washing his little sister. I personally think this isn't a thing to encourage (on the verge of inappropriate). It would be ok if she was a baby but she isn't that small anymore.

He's just turned 3 so we haven't talked much about his body etc yet, but that something we will do more in the next year or so.

Am I overthinking this? I think I hurt my husband feelings a little bit as he was seeing this as a bonding thing between them.

Yes as long as he's not hurting her or touching any delicate areas. At some point they will stop bathing together anyway.

If your worried suggest he does arms or back

No he doesn't hurt her at all, he just touches her tummy and arms usually. He did try to wash her privates once but hasn't since I explained it wasn't ok.

If they are young enough to bath together, they are young enough to help "wash" each other.

I find this line of thinking a bit bizarre, to be honest. Are you comfortable with your husband washing the baby? Seem so but then it is not clear why you would think a toddler involvement is "verging on inappropriate".

Massively overthinking. It sounds very sweet! Team DH

It is sad that you see this as inappropriate. Your son is trying to help care for your daughter which sounds very sweet and should be encouraged. As a pp said, he can do back, arms, feet etc.
Of course if your DD didn't like it then you would have grounds to ask him to stop and talk about bodily autonomy. If she is fine then I don't see what the problem is.

Nurturing and caring behaviour should be encouraged in this age, not diminished.

That’s really sweet and not inappropriate at all!

Lol thanks all, I'm very glad I checked!
I'll read more on the topic, it's all very new to us I guess.

I do not think children below age five feel sexual urge even if they were to playfully touch genital parts. Bathing or eating together at earlier age with a parent supervision could promote sibling unity.