Loyalty

[DebsA1]

My DH and I are not very close but I do a lot for him. I’m being stupid I know but at 75 I want a quiet life.
We are both on our third marriage, no children together. Over the years he has alienated me from his offspring so I don’t see them. No great loss.
His eldest son has invited him to Spain for New Year, five days. He’s obviously going. Then he asked me to order something for his son’s girlfriend and I don’t even know her. I’m sick of being wicked stepmother. I’ve done nothing to deserve it. Thoughts please.

Tell him to do it himself.

Your dh is an arsehole.
Tell him as you have yet to meet her, you are unable to order a gift and that he is far better qualified to do it.
Then book a nice new year trip for yourself. And keep doing so.

Just stop doing anything for him, for the ease of things and a quiet life instead of out right saying no, just keep delaying and stalling, making excuses etc.
Or I don’t have time, sorry your job etc
Also - I’d divorce personally! Life’s too short to spend it with a dick

He is ditching you to go to spain over new years and asked you to sort out a gift for him to take?

Tell him to fuck off and not come back.

Just breezily say you wouldn’t have a clue what to get her and he’ll have to do it.