Saying stuff under his breath

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Does anyone else’s Dh do this? Mutters things under their breath? Annoys me so much
An example, just now.,did homemade pizzas with dd, some extra dough left over, so I made a smaller one, it was thick, I was rushing around after just getting in, sorting dd, the dog etc. I brought the last one in (the smaller, thick one) and asked if anyone wanted more. I said it’s probably a bit thick, Dh muttered under his breath ‘Probably’ so I said ‘What?’ as wanted to check what he said, he said ‘I was just saying it’s probably a bit doughy’
It was very thick and doughy, but aibu to be pissed off at these mutterings and to say ‘You make it then’ or am I being tired and dramatic

If my DH was constantly talking to himself and muttering like that, I'd assume (rightly or wrongly) that he might be neurodiverse, have mental health issues, a stroke or some sort of inner monologue he couldn't control within his head and it came out as speaking! Has he always done this or is this a new thing?

YANBU. My mum likes a low voiced bitchy mutter when she can't wait to voice a usually unpleasant thought and thinks but can't be certain you're out of ear shot. She's louder than she thinks. I just say very loudly now " Sorry, what did you say?" And follow up the denials with "chunter chunter chunter - I CAN HEAR YOU".

Forget the muttering it sounds like the least of your worries. Why was he sitting there watching you run around like staff? Why wasn't he seeing to your daughter or the dog while you made pizza?

My mother in law does this and it drives my husband completely insane! I make sure to mutter whenever he’s annoying me and I want to piss him off 😂

Well in that example I would probably take no notice but if he is doing it often and saying worse things I would think that was quite horrible and unnecessary.

Nah, when mine does this I go "SORRY DO YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY?" 🤣

Passive aggressive yuk. Stop offering him stuff and every time he does it stop doing something else for him. What a wanker.

It's passive aggressive.
It turns the atmosphere sour.
It keeps you off balance.

He doesn't like you.

Because he's lord and master of all he surveys, in his head, and the OP is so far beneath him he can't stoop to any of the tasks she performs, and he can reinforce his superiority and show his contempt of her by muttering under his breath.

He’d just got in from work tbf, taking coat off etc

@mathanxiety Doesn’t like me? Do you think?

"I said it’s probably a bit thick, Dh muttered under his breath ‘Probably’ so I said ‘What?’ as wanted to check what he said, he said ‘I was just saying it’s probably a bit doughy’"

You said/asked 'what?' because instinctively you know he's negging you in a passive aggressive way. If he wasn't, he'd have repeated 'probably'. But instead, he gave the alternative. Apart from that, there was no need for him to reply or comment on your statement 'it's probably a bit thick'.

It seems like he was implying you are a bit thick and you subconsciously picked up on that.

Depending on the rapport you have with each other, you could either take it to heart or assume he was being a dick and banter him back ... "could you mumble that again".

I'm assuming, because you've asked the question on mumsnet, this isn't the first time he's mumbled something 'double-edged' under his breath.