To not invite best friends partner?

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Long story short I'm getting married in 2026, best friend (of 10+ years) has been with this guy about 6 months

I've invited them both round for dinner multiple times and he declines every time but friend comes. He declines because he can't be bothered or doesn't want to not because he already has plans.

When I go to friends house he disappears upstairs - we get on there's no dislike towards each other but merely just a pleasant conversation

At this point I don't want to invite him to the wedding if he can't even bothered to do any of the above?

Aibu to not want to invite? What would you do?

Don't invite him. We had a policy at our wedding where we didn't invite anyone that the engaged couple hadn't met.
My boyfriend and I had been together 10 years when we got married so this included cousins of my now dh that I hadn't met and vice versa and the boyfriend of one of my uni friends.

Of course you invite your best friends partner to your wedding.
He probably won't come anyway- OR you might be good friends by the time the wedding rolls round. Who knows?
They're only together 6 months- anything could happen in the next year.

You need to talk to your friend though. She’s one of the 60 because she’s someone you care about, so you have an honest conversation with her, not just send an invite without him.

Something like ‘I don’t want anyone coming because they feel obligated, Dave clearly doesn’t like social events- would he be happier not to be invited?

I would invite him but say you would understand if weddings aren't his thing and he didn't want to come. Try not to make it sound PA!

I didn't invite my best friends partner to my wedding. It was a small affair with less than 20 guests and I only wanted my closest friends and family. I knew best friend and her partner would split up! I didn't want the partner to be part of my memories because I barely knew her and knew that within 6 months of the wedding I'd never see her again. However, my best friend was hurt when her partner wasn't invited, so I ended up having to invite her.

Sure enough, my wedding day was the last time I saw the partner and she's in all my wedding pics! Oh well :( my friend was happy so ultimately that was important to me!

You have fallen into his trap