Should I be glad I'm not with him any more?

[TopGalGotte]

Had a three-year relationship with this now 62 year old man. I was his longest ever relationship and yet he's had many girlfriends over the years - somehow, I thought I was different but yet again, he ended this one too - I'd describe it as a cold discard. He often spoke over me, could be belittling at times, but called me sensitive over this.

It ended 1.5 years ago, I'm doing well now, but I've heard he's now seeing someone else. My head tells me I should be glad it's not me, but can't help thinking maybe he's finally net the one. Maybe it's Christmas has me feeling like this!

Aibu - I've had a lucky escape really?

You can't really help how you feel, but it might be helpful to investigate why.

Also why you thought you'd magically make a person change the habits of a lifetime, and why you'd try to.

It's a huge mistake to think you're the one who's going to change someone. Especially when they're in their 60s.

He doesn't sound particularly nice and had a long history of broken relationships. Your time might be better spent reflecting on why you put up with it. Are you a rescuer?

Being discarded hurts! So yes, Maybe it's a good thing that you aren't in this relationship anymore. If he was acting cold and dismissive, it's a reason for it. I don't like to make assumptions, but it seems like maybe he was seeing the person he's with now prior to the discard which is why he did it in the first place. Since it's the holiday season, I know it has you feeling down and a little lonely, but regardless of what season it is, this was most likely going to happen anyway. The best thing you can possibly do is try to move on. Move on and try to heal from this. You can find somebody better and just because he seems happy with this new relationship doesn't mean she's the one. All relationships start out problem free in the beginning so what you are seeing between the two of them doesn't mean she is a better person for him, it just means that they haven't been together long enough to run into any problems yet. This should not concern you. Just realize that it wasn't meant to be and you can do so much better. You really can.
Best Wishes!

Yabu for being surprised

It ended 18 months ago. Why on earth are you still informed of what he is doing, particularly whether or not he is seeing another person? That's just weird, even if for example, you have the same group of friends/work
He has moved on, as should you after this amount of time. I doubt he will settle down, and at his age, you may well have dodged a 'caring for him in his decreptitude' bullet

I suppose I could be described as that, and too accepting of what another person wants, but one good thing to come out of breakup is I'm stronger overall and not so much either of these any more.

I think if you have to ask this type of question, the answer is always affirmative.

He often spoke over me, could be belittling at times, but called me sensitive over this. You know that a decent percent wouldn't do this to you, don't you? Someone who cares about you wouldn't ignore you, put you down and then mock you and minimise you.

It sounds like you dodged a bullet and there's now another unsuspecting woman lined up in his sights.

You might like to consider some counselling as it does seem you are struggling a bit with it. Maybe work around boundaries and acceptable behaviour in relationships would be helpful to you.

Thank your lucky stars, OP!
He sounds like a prince among men...🙄

Glad to hear it, now block him and move on.

How old are you?