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AIBU?

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Don’t want to attend family event @ 34 wks pregnant

7 replies

Hc213 · 12/12/2024 00:58

To provide a little back story… I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and have had a very rough pregnancy with HG and being placed on pelvic rest. My MIL just sent me a message stating that she is planning a luncheon with some of her female family members (some I didn’t even know existed until this moment ) the day after Christmas and that she would really love for me to be there to spend time with my new family members. I will be 34 weeks pregnant at this point and I honestly have zero interest in going. I do not have a good relationship with my SIL( she is very rude and judgmental to my DH and I) and my mother in law and her mother are both the type of people who are rude to restaurant staff, so going out to a meal with them is already uncomfortable even when I’m not exhausted and emotional. To make matters worse my husband has been living out of the country for the last two months and I have been staying with my parents. My husband comes home on Christmas Eve, so we were planning on spending time together and working on getting our home set up for the baby in the days following Christmas. AIBU by wanting to nest with my DH instead of spending the afternoon with my MIL and family members I have never met?

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Redrosesposies · 12/12/2024 01:02

It's very simple, you just politely respond "I'm sorry I can't make it. Maybe another time"
No need to allow it to become a drama.

HeddaGarbled · 12/12/2024 01:15

the day after Christmas

Boxing Day?

KenAdams · 12/12/2024 01:19

Just say you're exhausted and are spending time with DH before the baby comes. No need for any drama.

Emily198222 · 12/12/2024 01:20

"Sounds like a wonderful get together but unfortunately I already have plans do won't make it this time. Have a lovely day."

She doesn't need to know that your plans are staying in your house and resting.

PullTheBricksDown · 12/12/2024 01:37

If they're going to kick back against a polite no, then agree, and text the day before to say you have come down with a terrible migraine, cough or whatever and are so disappointed but you can't make it.

Mammabier · 12/12/2024 01:45

Awe bless you, I can’t stand my MIL and I have very little to do with her TBF
if I were you I would say that’s great thanks for inviting me and then on the day text her and apologise saying you have a horrendous migraine and are going straight to bed…
No drama whatsoever 🙌

MarieKlepto · 12/12/2024 01:56

If you say no is she likely to interrogate you as to why? If not, a simple "thank you so much for thinking of me, that sounds great but I can't make it, hope you have a lovely time" should suffice?

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