Pride Flag on School Toilets

[kurotora]

Yesterday I was in DD4’s Primary school for a craft morning and noticed they’d redone the toilets. They are mixed sex, as before, but now the walls around them have massive pride progress flags adorning them and a slogan about inclusivity. It is now the main feature of the main school hallway.

I genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable but this feels so weird to me. A giant flag about sexuality and gender on the toilets of a school for 4-11 year olds? If it’s about inclusivity, why not a drawing of kids of different races/abilities playing or holding hands or something? Why sex and gender for this age group - who actually wants this?

Is this just the norm for any Primary school now, for these issues to be centre stage?

I would ask questions about this. Where the finding came from, and why this design was chosen. Are they all mixed sex? I think that goes against the guidelines for older children.

It makes no sense and isn't really meaningful to the kids.

No not all primaries are like that.

The private school near me has pride rainbow litter bins dotted around the playground. Is this a box ticking inclusive thing schools do these days?

The reason I asked this is we take DD to football at the local SEN primary on Saturday mornings and I saw they had a big Pride notice board in the school hall with flags, including (with explanations) trans, pansexual, genderqueer, demisexual etc. It did not feel age appropriate to me.

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Wtf. That’s totally inappropriate.

Whereabouts in the UK are you, OP?

I’d certainly be asking questions to the school leadership team about this. Very inappropriate.

Hertfordshire. I feel like I want to say something, but as I only have one child, I wasn’t sure if this is the norm, or if I’ll come across as unreasonable (hence the thread).

You aren't unreasonable, a lot of people will agree with you. But they will be too scared to speak up.

Well I know my parents wouldn't have been happy to see that when I was 4. And I wouldn't have been happy to share toilets with boys. (I'm sure they're separate cubicles but it's still an "all in one bathroom".)

The bathrooms have 4 or 5 separate cubicles but are open plan into the main corridor/dining room, with a waist high wall in front. It’s very different from when I was in school but I’m 40! 🫣 I guess not much can happen since there is no privacy except in the immediate cubicle - still, not nice particularly for any girl who starts her period a wee bit early.

Totally inappropriate. I would complain.

True also. But I was thinking back to when I was 4-7. I'm 20 now, but we didn't have any "shared" toilets and I personally would have HATED not having a "girlies space".

I can remember in what we called the sport hall, to get to the "gc" (girls changing) we had to walk through part of the "bc" but not past their urinals or cubicles (the toilets were separate). I don't remember any girls minding that, because we had our own "gc" to get to anyway.

Thank you. I emailed them to see if they have any advice on bringing this up with the school.

I am very nervous about it as I don’t want it to come back to DD in any way. :(

This shit has no place in schools. Even secondary schools.