School decision dilemma

[GiveMeAMin]

So my LG’s teacher approached me today. She is in year 3 so 7 years old.
They had swimming today and next week is a fun session. The swimming teacher measured all the class against the height for the slides and my daughter was the only one who didn’t meet the height requirement.
The teacher asked me to make a decision on whether the whole class don’t use the slides in the fun session OR if they do use them my LG would be the only child who is too small to go on them.
The class don’t know that the slides are an option.
Am I being unreasonable to tell her the whole class can’t use them? My LG is quite stoic but I feel it would be a bit too much of an exclusion for any child

I get she will be upset but I’d never spoil the enjoyment of the whole class over this.

I know it’s disappointing for your DD but I think it would be unfair for the whole class to have to skip the slides for one child. Just prepare your DD for it and ask the teacher to ensure there’s plenty of other fun stuff going on that she can join in with. It’s not like all the children will be on the slides at all times and she’ll be left on her own.

I'd ask your daughter what she wants, mine wouldn't be too bothered by slides on the whole and would rather play in the pool but ultimately it's horrible if you do want want to and be the only one not going on. The kids don't know they are losing out if you sat you'd prefer not as they don't know anyway. Could your daughter have a special float or pool toy?

Wow you seriously would make the whole class miss out? Personally I would say have the slides and take your child out somewhere else for the morning.

For those who think the rest of the class should be allowed, shame on you! I would hope that if my DD were in this class they’d see how unfair it was to leave one child out.

I can't believe they're putting this decision on you tbh. I agree with PP who said let them do the session and take your child out somewhere.

This decision shouldn't be yours to make. It's the teacher's decision. And she should choose an activity the whole class can do.

No one should use the slides.

I would let the others use the slides. Many won't want to or will get bored of queuing pretty quickly.

I wouldn't dream of curtailing everyone else's fun.

I would say the class can't go on. The school shouldn't have even come to you they should have just said no slides and that was the matter closed

I think it’s wrong of the teacher to put it on you. The teacher should say no slide for all and that should have been the end of it.

If one can't use the slides none should. That's terrible.

The teacher should have made the decision herself to not permit slides, as they've presumably not been permitted up to this point. Either no one goes on them or your daughter is the only one left out. Either way puts your daughter in a tough spot now as they've been measured so surely the class will know if they've individually made the height requirement.

If it's a fun session like any I've been to there should be plenty of floats/inflatables and other water toys that the slides will not be missed.

Personally I'd put it back to the teacher whether she wants to exclude your daughter or tell the class as 'some' children are not able to go on the slides, it would be fairer for none of them to if it comes up as a question.

Of course let the others use the slides. They will know from other classes / years about the slides.

Just tell your dd that you'll take her when she's tall enough. Many children have to sit out swimming related activities (for instance due to ear issues etc). Even if she's the only one in her class this time, it's not an uncommon situation. She may not even want to go on them.

How far off is she? I don’t think it’s fair to deny the others - just explain that’s how it is and hopefully she will have reached the threshold by the next fun session.

Slides for all or slides for none. They can't just leave one child out! That's just awful. My DS is small for his age and would be absolutely gutted (& embarrassed) to be left out while the others go & have fun.
The swim teachers should find something that ALL the children can do. The rest of the class don't know that the slides are an option.

What??? The little girl will benefit from learning that you can't alway get it your own way. It would be utterly selfish of mum or daughter to insist the rest of the children can't have fun on the slide. How I detest this type of emotionally unintelligent and selfish parenting. It's the worst of blinkered individualism, urgh.

No she needs to learn that when you're not able to do something you don't bring the rest of the world down to your level. This is a good life lesson.
However, there must surely be a single slide in the place that she can use, even a baby slide, I've never been to a pool with zero for DD when DS can slide.

You just warn her in advance, some of the other kids will be using the slides but you can't this time as you haven't got tall enough yet. I'll take you back as soon as you've grown.

They can't all slide simultaneously, so she won't be on her own and there is bound to be a scared kid.

My child was the short one who could never go down the soft play slide. She was fine so long as prewarned

I wouldn’t make the others miss out.

No way would I make the others miss out! Your DD will grow, it's not forever. This is like when the younger sibling complains the older sibling gets to stay up later!

She can do other stuff - ask the teacher to make sure she's not just sitting on the side by herself.

Neither would I. There may be a way that the DC could have some involvement such as starting any 'races'.

I agree. I'm disappointed in the teacher for raising this with you. She should never have mentioned it, and not had anyone on the slides until everyone is tall enough.

I won’t make the others miss out - this was more of a what would you do post
I will discuss it with her and let her decide I think - staying behind at school might be an option as we forgot her kit one day and she loved being with the reception kids