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Blocking a friend

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Crystall88 · 11/12/2024 11:10

I've had a friend for about 3 years but we've been really close for about the last 18 months. Lately things have gone weird between us. I noticed she wasn't replying to most of my messages and if she did reply she was being short with me, just sending one word answers or emojis. She then progressed to blanking me in the street and not saying hello. This comes after I supported her through something and gave her a lot of my time. with emotional and practical help. I was glad to do that as I considered her a friend but it makes me wonder what I've done to deserve this treatment, immediately after.
I asked her about this as a way to smooth things over and she apologised and said it was because she was going through a hard time. She seems normal with other people though so it's just personal to me.
She has another friend she is close to and seems to drop one of us for the other. If I see them in the street together my friend will blank me to my face. If the other friend isn't there, she'll come over and chat like nothing has happened. I'm sad and confused because it's not OK to treat a friend like that. This is just a vent I guess and I'm seeing if others think I am being unreasonable to to just block and move on because this is irritating me and I've had enough.

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Ineedpeaceandquiet · 11/12/2024 11:13

Not nice. Definitely block.

Crystall88 · 11/12/2024 11:18

Thanks. I should add I have no choice but to see her regularly due to the circumstance we're in.

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ArucanaFlower · 11/12/2024 11:22

If you still have to see her regularly, then: Mentally disconnect. Grey rock when you see her. Slow fade on messages.
I would stop asking why questions in your head. Who knows why she behaves as she does. If you don’t like it (annd I certainly wouldn’t) and this overshadows what you enjoy about your friendship then fade the friendship.

LittlePudding1 · 11/12/2024 11:24

If you have to see her regularly I probably wouldn't block her
Just downgrade the friendship in your own mind and accept that she isn't the friend you thought she was
Stop messaging her and if she blanks you, just do the same and definitely don't let her back in if she drops the other friend and tries to come back to you

Crystall88 · 11/12/2024 11:54

Thanks for the replies. I think it's just the fact she's blatantly used me when she needed a mate and thinks that's ok is what's annoying me. I've stopped initiating text conversation with her anymore and I'm going to try my best to reflect back to her what's she doing to me.

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Mary46 · 11/12/2024 11:55

I probably fade her out.. Maybe the friendship has fizzled out. Not nice behaviour though.

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