Moving on very fast?

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We broke up last week after being together 3 years. He treated me very badly during this time an we would go back a fourth!
It's been a week since ending , 4 days since last contact until today and he's moved on already. I feel horrific like everything was a lie he said he loved me last week and didn't want to break up to then go to this 💔 I stupidly messaged him today and he just said it's not your business. Feeling worthless right now.

I want to message him and ask why but that's not going to do me any good is it 😢 haven't anyone else to talk to about this x

Hi, my ex of 10 years and father to my kids had a new gf within four weeks. It didn’t last. After getting over the shock, I realised it was the equivalent to drinking 10 pints a night. Something to distract him / feel better.

its no reflection on you or your relationship. Does suggest he can’t sit with difficult emotions. Good luck over the coming weeks

Well OP if he treated you badly then the man is an arsehole and of course he has to line up some other woman to make miserable. Thank god you are free and can see his true colours.

It sounds like he really squished you so maybe do some reading around abusive relationships and how to recover from them. There are helpful threads on here too.

Yeah he really has @theduchessofspork been made worse by the fact he's moved on with someone he told me was just a friend during our relationship I just feel so silly 😢 x

People deal with things in different ways, I know it don’t feel like it but you will be okay and the whole thing will hurt less and less with time x

Absolutely this^

One of my exes did the same and in a way I found it really validating that I was right to have had suspicions about them.

He's right that it's not your business though op.. good riddance to bad rubbish. Block and delete and move on and focus on yourself and your own happiness. He's showing you who he is and none of it looks good.

Please don't message him again. He was probably already carrying on with her before you broke up. You are better off without him OP so concentrate on moving on yourself.

Block his number for the sake of your own dignity.

Some people deal with break-ups by getting together with the first person they meet. Rarely lasts. They're using the new person to get over the previous one.

My ex (of 13 yrs) left me by email and moved to another country to be with a women.

You get over it.