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To not want to leave ds

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Lavender14 · 10/12/2024 11:37

Ds is 2 years old and I've recently split suddenly from his dad who he no longer sees. We're currently staying with family as we had to leave our home to get away from his dad which meant me moving to a new job.

Work are now talking about a 3 day team building training residential a few hours away. Part of me would like to go - I like my new team and I'm enjoying the job and its a good chance for me to establish myself.

But it feels like a really long time to be away from ds who is going through a really clingy phase since we moved. It's also a lot to expect my elderly parents to provide 3 days worth of childcare as he'd only be in nursery for 1 of the 3 days and I think it would be too much for them. I also would just really really miss him. Ive only had the very very odd overnight away from him since he was born and found it hard to settle myself. (I had bad post partum anxiety).

What do I do here? Do I just need to suck it up and go or do i try to talk to my manager about only going for part? I'm not sure how receptive my manager would be.

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Ruffpuff · 10/12/2024 11:40

Can you explain your circumstances to the manager and maybe come to a compromise? Perhaps one night would be more suitable for you. It’s not an unreasonable request at all and hopefully your manager will be supportive.

I think it would be a good opportunity for you to bed in further with the team, and it would be a shame to miss out completely. At the same time, I understand why 3 nights would be a bit much and it’s not worth doing all 3 if it’s going to make you feel anxious and uncomfortable being away that long.

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