I have decided today that I am leaving my partner of 12 years. It's not going to be easy and there is far too much abuse to write here. He has been emotionally abusive towards me since very early on. I have had therapy alone and therapy with him, ally doing, as I was tricked into believing I was the issue. He has cheated on me emotionally with many different women, I have no proof this went further, and I was told it was my fault. Well today, after him losing his temper with me again and punching the doors in my home, and also finding out he has been talking to another female co worker (and now deleting all their correspondence) I have decided I am not continuing the relationship.
My problem though is this . His family, I don't not speak to any longer due to his mother being abusive towards me because I disagreed with her on a very sensitive topic, he also said his upbringing was awful with his parents physically abusing eachother and cheating, so as we have a child together I don't want her going to their house if we split
Also we joint own our home, I'm currently out of work due to health issues but I volunteer from home, but I have no clue what will happen regarding me keeping my home, it was my home before him (it was council) and I was stupid enough to buy it with him something I regret. He has spent the day blaming me for him lying to me, said it's my fault he is the way he is and because I have not backed down this time he then resulted in apologising but again I've not accepted it. He ignores me when I cry and has never hugged me when I cry either. I know I'm stupid for staying this long but after therapy I feel stronger. Does anyone have advise on how I can stay in my home? I will not go to a hostel or refuge with my child and no way I'm leaving my dogs they have always been by my side and one is elderly and tbh I'm not letting him have my house. My sister is going to help me out with work and my parents are helping me get my car fixed (asked partner for months but fell on broken promises) so I can get to work I'm also going to continue volunteering as it's from home and I'm hoping the experience will help me to gain employment in this field later on. Please don't judge me on why I stayed so long I feel stupid enough as it is. But I can't bear the fact of having my child temporarily either, she's a very timid and emotional child and is very bonded to me I also do not trust him or his family to treat her well. Sorry for this long and strange post