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Lonely and sad. And bored.

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Hello113 · 09/12/2024 19:20

That's how I feel tonight. I feel okay generally atm but I just feel really alone tonight. Maybe it's Christmas and all the stuff that gets shoved in your face that makes you feel extra single and extra childless. I've made a dinner which wasn't as nice as I thought it would be and can't find anything I want to watch on tv. I'd go to bed if I thought I'd sleep through 😅

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Hello113 · 09/12/2024 21:28

LittleMG · 09/12/2024 20:20

I’ve just lost my mum last month and even though I have a loving husband and kids and a fantastic sister I feel so down. I miss her so much no one can fill that hole. My husband just works so much and my kids are small and don’t really understand.

I'm so sorry for your loss x

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bluebalou · 09/12/2024 21:56

Could you get another cat maybe ? A rescue cat that's more of a lap cat ? Would your other cat be ok with that maybe ? x

Pippyls67 · 09/12/2024 22:02

Hello113 · 09/12/2024 21:27

It's a shame though because I'd love one. I looked after my friends daschund recently and he was such lovely company for me. Its not the cats fault but the cat just does his own thing and isn't really any company.

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Awww I’m sorry to hear that Op. it’s a shame but I see your point. Pity cat isn’t a bit more sociable. Bet he makes you work hard for a wee bit of attention. They can be quite aloof can’t they. Interesting how they evolved to wrap us around their little fingers regardless. Cats are enigmatic creatures. Beautiful and mysterious too.

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Hello113 · 09/12/2024 22:15

bluebalou · 09/12/2024 21:56

Could you get another cat maybe ? A rescue cat that's more of a lap cat ? Would your other cat be ok with that maybe ? x

I don't think he would tolerate another cat unfortunately.

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ItsVeryComplicated · 09/12/2024 22:24

Is it possible that the cat could be rehomed? It sounds as though you are a bit under his/her thumb. If this was the relationships forum they've be saying LTB. LOL

Crumpleton · 10/12/2024 00:07

I always think the thing with cats is, unlike dogs they don't exactly have owners, they have 'servants'.
Pretty much do their own thing and you fall into place with their wants.

backwayentrance · 11/01/2025 14:48

Havalona · 09/12/2024 20:05

I live alone, but am happy to do so. I don't get lonely as such, but occasionally am at a loose end, say if the weather is awful and I'm a bit stuck indoors, things like that.

All my family is coupled up with kids and grandkids. I look on it as the choice I made not to marry or have kids and focus on the freedom and financial benefits that brings. But very occasionally I do feel a bit meh. Not for long though as I count the positives!

I'm older now and realise that the lives of others is not always what I think it is and is rarely something to be envious about. Every kind of lifestyle has its pluses and minuses my own included.

I love the freedom of the single life though. Nobody whingeing, no endless dinners to cook on rotation, no washing machine going three times a day, endless clean ups, no poorly children, no school runs, and the best of all is NO Nativity play. Sorry bout that!

On the other hand I love children. Adore their little ways and the love they show. I enjoy all my N+Ns but quite honestly I am glad their presence in my life is transitory. Glad to hand them back!

Sorry for going on OP. I suppose I'm just saying that yes, there are times of the day, month and year when feelings of isolation can hit. It doesn't last forever, and try and focus on the positives.

😕

daisydaughter · 11/01/2025 14:52

Hope you’re feeling better today OP.
If I ever second-guess my life choices, I find that half an hour on mumsnet reading about other people’s family problems puts things back into perspective and I find it easier to count my blessings and feel grateful for the life I lead x

Lavenderblossoms · 11/01/2025 15:31

ItsVeryComplicated · 09/12/2024 20:25

@LittleMG sorry to hear that. That sounds hard.

My DS is out of school with anxiety. I can't go in buildings with LED lights as they give me a headache and I have to wear an n95 mask when I go near people as covid knackered my immune system, so we're quite isolated.

We have zoom calls with people once week to have a bit of company and that is nice.

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Have you tried antiglare glasses? I need to get some for driving as LED lights hurt my eyes a lot.

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