To think this IS bullying and worth a chat with the school?

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DD(16) has recently become a target for the school mean girls. They recorded DD at a school disco, showed it to others and now that group are calling DD some horrible names.

DD’s friends are telling her to ignore it and they have her back, saying that the mean girls will move onto someone else soon. It is really bothering DD though.

i want to raise with the school. DH thinks it’s far too early to do this as it’s just been a week or two and that we have to give DD a chance to work it out.

Has anyone been through something similar and AIBU?

Yes, raise it, if only for school to have a record to build up a history if this continues.

Please raise it with the school. This is cyber bullying and needs to be nipped in the bud.

If I thought any of my children did anything like this I would be taking away their social media. Can you reach out to the parents?

Thanks @FleaDog @FritataPatate, will wait and see what happens tomorrow with her friend intervention but also think that nipping it in the bud before Christmas would be good.

@Sometimeswinning No idea who the parents are as it’s a huge school. Also, it seems that these girls are well known for this type of behaviour so looks like it hasn’t been dealt with up to now.

In my Dc's old school policy on bullying they do say that you can raise it with the school and they don't have to act on that one piece if you don't want them to. It puts it on their radar to look out for this behaviour but they might do a more general assembly on it rather than speak one to one to the girls involved.

I would see how tomorrow goes and if there are more issues I would contact school to alert them to it. Sadly what tends to happen with these sorts of children is that if their behaviour goes unchecked it escalates because they know they can get away with it.

I would also tell your DD that what these girls think of her doesn't define her or who she is. Happy people don't behave the way those bullies do, they may fake it well but only unhappy and insecure people feel the need to try to take others down.