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To be hacked off that someone has thrown an egg at our house?

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 12:05

Children play football outside our house. As a result my car has marks all over it, and has had a broken head lamp and wing mirror. I value kids playing in the street so have always let it go and never challenged the kids playing. These kids are not very friendly especially towards my DSs who they will not let join in. Again I have let this go because my DSs(6 and 8) are much younger than the children playing football, and I understand that the older children want to play with eachother.

About a month ago somebody kept throwing stones at our house. It was dusk. I opened the door and shouted' stop throwing stones'. It continued and DH went out next. While he was he could see clearly who had been throwing the stones as three children were there. They are aged 14, 10 and 9. The Mum of the ten year old came out and apologised for what was happening. We didn't tell the parents of the 14 and 9 year old.

Yesterday I noticed that my head lamp was yet again broken. Again I was going to just igore it. However as I was walkng towards the house I could see someone had thrown an egg at my DSs bedroom window

It must have been the stone throwers, and I went to talk to both sets of parents who were ok about it.

I am not a whingey neighbour, I value children being to play outside freely but I am very annoyed about the egg.

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mshadowsisfab · 30/04/2008 12:08

we had eggs thrown at our house. like you we knew who was doing it. it went on and on and in the end we called the police. one visit from the community police office(with dad not opening door) and it stopped. so ring the police.
this is not normal children just playing.

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 12:19

I'd be worried it might inflame the situation if the police were involved.
How do you mean it's not normal mshadow and did you ever get to the bottom of why thet were doing it?
I'm concerned these children have got it in for my DC.

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Iamthedoctor · 30/04/2008 12:26

We had it, and like above poster, called the police, who came round and had chat with the kids and parents. The kids were made to come and clean up the last batch, and in over a year, we have had not an ounce of trouble.

Sometimes, I think it just takes a shock for them to stop!

mshadowsisfab · 30/04/2008 12:41

the shits boys doing it used to be ds's mates until they fell out.
it is not normal to throw eggs and stones at peoples houses. it is antisocial behaviour and after a certain age I am sure It is criminal damage.

minster · 30/04/2008 12:55

We got the PCSOs involved when this happened to us (it our last house) - if you don't it escalates, & life becomes unbearable (nails under car tires, graffiti etc). I would also mention the damage to your car, my daughter (and many of the other children in the street) plays out but damage to houses or vehicles wouldn't be tolerated by anyone.

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 13:29

I am kind of expecting it to escalate. If another egg is fired we will go to the police.
I was feeling a bit victimised but it's reassuring to see other people have experienced it.

I would be mortified if my DC ever threw an egg at a neighbour's house.

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bitofadramaqueen · 30/04/2008 13:43

How well do you get on with your neighbours? If you're reluctant to go to the police you could go and speak to each of your neighbours and let them know that you've been having a lot of problems lately, what with stones, damage to car, eggs etc. and that you feel you're going to have to report it to the police.

Maybe the fear of the police will persuade the parents to sort it out with the kids?

I personally would just go to the police though, if they think they are getting away with their behaviour who knows what they might try and get away with next?

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 13:53

Dramaqueen- I think you may have a point about them thinking they're getting away with it.
I hate conflict and would do anything to avoid it especially neighbours. We don't have much to do with those neighbours except exchanging pleasantries.

I really dislike their DC though especially since I saw them laughing at my DS (then 6) who had written on the road in chalk 'Please let me play football with you'. They also put him in a wheelie bin at an evening street party 2 years ago. They thought it was hilarious that he was scared by it.

I am quite worried they might try and hurt him.

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TenaciousG · 30/04/2008 14:44

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 14:47

Aww thanks Tenacious. It's actually my oldest DS who I feel is more vulnerable. DS2 is pretty tough and assertive and not so bothered about being friends with the older kids.

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nickytwotimes · 30/04/2008 14:48

mimi, that is so horrible. We have kids playin gon our street and like you I think it is generally a good thing. However, this is anti-social behavior. If the parents can't sort it, you might havve to ccall the police or contact the anti-social behavior people as we did. (Parents told us to fuck off!) It has worked well and there is the odd flare up but nothing bad. I really feel for you. Horrid situation to be in.

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bitofadramaqueen · 30/04/2008 16:16

Hi mimizan, they sound like a right bunch of wee buggers. With regards to the parents, do you think they are generally quite decent? If so, maybe like I said before a mention of the police might inspire them to take some action (I know my mum would have killed me if the police had ever turned up at the door). But, if you think they might not do anything I would def speak to the community police.

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 17:53

Thanks nicky, tenacious and dramaqueen,

It's good to get other peoples views on the situation.

I know some of the other people on the street well so will ask them if they've had anything happen.

I do however suspect that these kids have taken a dislike to my boys.(we moved in 3 years ago, they've been here years and they were sad when our predecessors(with a similiar age boy) moved out). I think they are bullies, but I know people who know them and like them!

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 20:38

Fantastic result: one of the families have just been around with their two kids to say sorry. They also gave us a letter they have written to say sorry in which they've admitted to throwing stones and eggs at our house. We accepted their apology graciously and feel that peace is now restored.

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bitofadramaqueen · 30/04/2008 21:03

Oh that's really good. It's nice to hear one of these stories turning out ok!

Your DCs are probably better off not being friends with these kids though!

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MorocconOil · 30/04/2008 21:26

I agree. Have had a good talk to the DSs about keeping out of their way, not that they're bad or anything just that they are older and have different interests. My perfect children

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TenaciousG · 30/04/2008 21:49

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